2006-11-21 06:11:55 · 6 answers · asked by stess1 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
my partner helps me masturbate and is extremly patient. i really want to get to that point....but my partner can't enjoy himself b/c i can't climax w/him. he feels unless.
2006-11-21 06:28:28 · update #1
Simply being active doesn't mean you had personal success. I couldn't climax in front of my ex-husband - ever.
Since my divorce, I've found a lover who's more patient, giving, and a true partner in every sense of the word. I have no problems now - multiples are quite common, in fact.
Try it by yourself, first: you should know your body and your responses well before expecting someone else to. Try the shower head, the tub spout, a vibrator, a jacuzzi (my personal favorite)...
Don't give up, and don't stress about it. Just do what feels good. You'll get there!
2006-11-21 06:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are masturbating, and you have orgasms then, I would blame the lack of orgasms with intercourse on your partner's technique, rather than on you. If you are not having orgasms with masturbation, then you may not be comfortable enough with your body to be stimulating the right parts. It is rare for a woman to be truly anorgasmic due to physiological reasons and not mental ones. Try reading "Our bodies, ourselves" a book which will give you much information about your body and help you to determine what is pleasurable.Once you find that out, the next step would be communicating with your partner what you find pleasurable.
If you aren't enjoying sex, perhaps it would be wise to take a step back from it for a while until you get yourself sorted out.
2006-11-21 06:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by phantomlimb7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him go down on you, or maybe try some annal stimulation. Either instead or in addition to vaginally.
Just be careful, most women get turned off of annal because they don't start out right, You need something small, like a pinky finger, and plenty of lube. You also need to insert/thrust very, very slowly!!!
You can quickly work up to something larger, and even take his entire penis inside your ***, which feels great, but take it slow, and small to start with.
2006-11-24 04:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your partners Please's them Self's or You ! Sometimes that the Case.
2006-11-21 06:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by mr_acecombat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your boyfirend
2006-11-21 08:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by bIGcOW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can try a vibrator...
2006-11-21 07:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by littlejackie1979 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋