My dads getting re married and my i cant stand my step sisters what should i do to relive the stress.
2006-11-21 06:05:47 · 12 answers · asked by Killashandra N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Peace in the home is so important. Try to find a way to get along with them. Perhaps use a counselor. Maybe, if you give it a chance, you can actually become close and enjoy a relationship with them as sisters. Good luck. I'm sure there's a lot more to this story than is presented here.
2006-11-21 06:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress isn't caused by a situation, it's how YOU REACT to the situation that causes stress.
Your dad has a right to his own life and happiness. He is aware that it's not an easy situation to remarry when there are children involved. And you do need to understand that while he loves you, he also wants to make his new wife happy. What will make her happy is being a family with her kids. You are a reminder of his previous life and old wife. It's not personal. That is the situation.
You can react by causing all kinds of headaches and problems for your dad, his wife and her children. I'm sure you need no schooling in that area. But what will that get you? Your dad will feel torn. lt will not make your stepmother love you and in fact will probably make her hostile towards you. And of course her daughters are going to side with their mother. There will be nothing but fighting, bitterness and unhappiness until something changes and that will be when you leave.
Or you can react by doing your best to make a smooth transition for everyone. You might find that if you go out of your way to be pleasant, cheerful and outgoing it will be given back to you.
No one can force anyone to do anything. If someone treats you badly, it's your decision alone on how you will respond. Retaliating is not going to make the situation more calming and peaceful for you is it?
It's up to you.
2006-11-21 06:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but excises works for all ages and reading. are you going to live with your dad? if your not don't worry about your steps. and your dad moved on don't be a Bret about it eight er.why should his love life stress you out it's not you getting married. live in let live. grow up. but if your going to live with your dad and his new wife learn how to get along or life for you will be hard. you can make it if you learn how to deal with it. you may be wondering way life for you is this way, it's really not your fault but in a divorce family or maybe your mom gone or whatever the reason is your the one who dealing with it. so when i tell you to grow up and don't be a Bret I'm not saying it to be mean I'm saying it because if you don't YOUR going to make your life a living hall.
2006-11-21 06:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u have to live with them? What about them do you not like? I went through similar situation, I'm 32 and I still don't have anything to do with my step-sister. Talk to your dad, and busy yourself when they are around. I encourage you to not ruin this for your dad. One day, you will be gone living your own life, and I know you don't want him to be left alone. Try for his sake, but don't let these girls make you miserable. Trust me it's not worth it. Good luck to you, I know it's hard, but you will be rewarded for your sacrifices.
2006-11-21 06:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by jeffandchristymoss@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a journal,keep in an ultra safe hidden place, occasionally shred pages just in case. Also, check in the yellow pages for county clinics, they charge on a "sliding" scale.
2006-11-21 06:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always find counseling centers that offer their services on a sliding scale. Do not forget that school counselors can be a big help.
2006-11-21 06:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go visit your friends and came back to home to go to sleep.
Study hard, finish school, get good job. Set some goals. Get some out activity or just move to my place.
2006-11-21 06:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to find some common ground with the two
2006-11-21 06:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exercise is good. Prayer is better!!
2006-11-21 06:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know your stepsister is a pain but soon she be family and you gave to get use to that.
2006-11-21 06:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by roseypooh_ashrospry 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋