i have this friend, and shes my best friend and has been for 1 year, and she can be the rudest person but at times shes really nice and helpful, shes into smoking weed and doing drugs and just because me and her are good friends, doesnt mean i do that stuff, i rarely fall into peer pressure, but i can make wrong desicions, i always seem to pick the wrong crowd to hang around, like for example my best friend trys to help me, but sometimes she ditches me for other people she just met and not many people really like her and i think she just hangs around me cause shes jealous of me and she thinks because shes with me guys will like her, the only way she can get guys to like her is if she sucks them off, and she wants me to do that stuff too, where im not about that kinda stuff, were total oppisites in everything, and im just wondering, should i slowly move away and try and find a new best friend, or stick with her and give her another try, beacasue im really tired of her bullshit
2006-11-21 05:59:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take her to dinner and buY her the most expensive meal on the menu, then tell her that they have cancelled your credit card but you had forgotten and ask her to pick up the tab. HEHEHEHE.
2006-11-21 06:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about best friends is I promise you you will have several in your lifetime. You don't have to ditch this one, but find some more close friends. That's never a bad idea. You can't always rely on her. I've found too that it's really helpful to have friends in different groups. Like I have some friends who are really conservative and some that are really out there. It's good to have both kinds sometimes. Really.
2006-11-21 06:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by dontimaginetheyllallcometrue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a friend I use to have. A horrible one! Your better off staying away, you don't want to get dragged down into the drugs scene with her. Would you want your child when you have one having a best friend like yours? Well done for not giving in to peer pressure, that just shows what a mature, strong person you are.
2006-11-21 06:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Gem Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but she doesn't sound like she thinks of you as her best friend by the way she's acting. Your "friend" sounds manipulative and may feel powerful because she believes she's got you wrapped around her finger. Try expanding your friend base with people who share your interests and values. This relationship will probably fade over time anyway. Finding new friends may distract you from her and help ease the transition away from her toxic attitude.
2006-11-21 06:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in all honesty you have made your own mind up, just checking to see if what you decided is the right one. I think that you are way too good for the likes of her and all she wants you to do is to get tangled up in her mess,
You can speak for yourself and she doesnt like it. She no doubt wants to control you but you wont let her and if you tell her straight how you feel she wont think twice again.
Leave her be, shes obviously not bothered by you so go find another circle of friends.
2006-11-21 06:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sound of it you don't feel happy with this friendship. Build your circle of friends and have a wider choice of who u spend your time with. Do u have something you enjoy doing? Enrol in an evening class or join a social group that sounds interesting to you. Then u wont be reliant on one person.
2006-11-25 04:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by bcs31859 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously dont want to be doing the things she is in to, which is fair enough and you dont want to fall in to the trap of being swayed in these things. I think you should move away from her and try and make some friends that are not in to this sort of things, she is only going to drag you down with her and you dont want to ruin your life because of someone else.
2006-11-23 04:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away! As fast as you can! You could tell her you're tired of her bullshit, and there are other ways of making friends, but do you honestly think she's worth the time and the trouble?
2006-11-22 00:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends... real friends dont try and make you do things they know you never would like your 'friend' has been doing. you have already made up your mind on this subject. you dont have to cut her out of your life completly if you dont want to but i would get more friends and you will probably find another best friend who is better suited to your standards.
2006-11-21 06:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep to your own standards, don't do stuff you'll regret. But your freidn does seem to have hope in you. maybe you could try to share it with her...your confidence and sense of value. Your friend doesn't seem to have a hight sense of her own value. She needs to become less dependent on others opinion of her.
2006-11-21 06:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Josephine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋