If a married man cheats with an unmarried woman, isn't it moreso adultery on his part and not hers? He's married and she's not, so he's the one who really commited adultery right?
2006-11-21 05:57:10 · 37 answers · asked by melcar12345 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wasn't asking whose fault it was, I already know they both were wrong. But he was the one who committed himself to his wife before god. She on the other hand is single and is not commited to anyone. Yes, she knew he was married.
2006-11-21 07:58:32 · update #1
www.wikipedia.org defines it this way:
Adultery, or infidelity, is generally defined as consensual sexual intercourse by a married person with someone other than his or her lawful spouse. In many jurisdictions, an unmarried person who is sexually involved with a married person is also considered an adulterer.
2006-11-21 06:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Shogun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When something is wrong, it is wrong, and to this situation there are no degrees of who is more at fault than the other.
First of all, like you said, marriage involves a commitment between two people and God, and it doesn't matter if the person was unhappy, feeling lonely or sad, marriage is a life long commitment, one you have to work at every single day to keep it working properly, if someone doesn't want to be a part of that he or she should speak before cheating.
On the other hand, the woman knows he was married, she voluntarily involved herself with a man who had a previous commitment, she is as guilty as he is of the adultery, only had she not known would she be excused of being at fault, but since that is not the case, she is as guilty as he is.
2006-11-21 11:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry no its not. If they didn't know he was married would be the only exception. If he is "seperated" "having problems" "Lonely" "mean wife" he is ultimatly still married and no matter what excuse is made the bottom line is if you where the married partner, you wouldn't think the other women was not guilty. It takes two to tango, and both played a part in hurting this person with the act of adultery. I hope this helps, and everyone makes a mistake, its learning from it that makes the differnece. Good Luck
2006-11-21 06:28:15 · answer #3 · answered by momofmany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look when this happens both parties have committed adultery. There is no one person that takes this blame, it is both. Takes two to tangle. Just remember in the future leave married men alone. I am sure you have seen this by now. The best part is that if you ask "God" to forgive you, he will. Pray to God about this and any other problems and he will help you through it.
2006-11-21 06:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she commited adultery if she knows the man is married. I mean the word adultery is when a married person cheats but she knew it. It all depends on why you are asking. Either way its not ok.
2006-11-21 06:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually happen to agree. If I'm single and go out with a married man, he's committing adultery and I'm not.
I'm single, I can date anyone I want!
However, if the single person is dating the married guy with the intent to cause problems or break up his marriage, then that's a whole different ballgame!
2006-11-21 06:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery according to Islam is any sex outside of marriage so they both are committing adultery. If you two are not married to each other, its adultery.
According to Islam adultery is a violation of a marital contract and one of the major sins. In Islam, adultery includes both pre-marital and extra marital sex. Fornication and adultery are both included in the Arabic word 'Zina'. Belonging primarily to the same category of crimes, entailing the same social implications and having the same effects on the spiritual personality of a human being, both, in principle, have been given the same status by the Qur'an.
2006-11-21 06:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both committed adultery just off the fact that they both knew better. And not only is the female an adulterer but shes a home wrecker. How would she feel if someone was to come and screw her husband?
2006-11-21 06:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by redbone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one who said the vows and made the commitment so he is MORE legally wrong. But if the woman knew he was married and especially if she knew the wife, she was just as wrong morally. Women shouldn't treat each other that way...you expect guys to be dogs sometimes but you should be able to trust women more...
2006-11-21 06:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Erika H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both are commiting adultery according to my minister. I guess you could say I had a few things to confess that I didn't know I had to confess! If she knew he was married (I didn't until later) then she's equally guilty.
2006-11-21 05:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by sandostrich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, according to everyone who thinks I'm an adulterous woman (I'm single), apparently NOT. The truth is, it doesn't matter who is the one. Both people enter into the decisions----BUT---and this is to all you high-horse-sitters out there!---it also takes TWO people to make a bad marriage. SO, if you don't tend your garden, the flowers go elsewhere, don't they? If a married person isn't happy and seeks it elsewhere, there's a story there that usually involves BOTH people.
2006-11-21 06:01:45 · answer #11 · answered by hot_italian_empress 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋