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two years ago he was jumped by four boys at school. one held him down and the others beat him. He was not hurt, but the emotional abuse that happened after I pushed the issue at school was to much for him he missed 22 days of school. We thought all was well utill yesterday when another set of boys jumped him as he was trying to get away from them. He was at the public Libiary, they saw him there and threathed him, his "so called" friend and he left. He was beaten only about 150 yards away from our home. I made the call to the police and he was life flighted to Children's Hospital. Only one of the boys was arrested. His so called friend was on the bus this morrning with this boy and he was sitting with him. SOME FRIEND!!!!! I think that his friend set him up. How do I go about this without causing my son any more pain.

2006-11-21 05:25:52 · 9 answers · asked by cookiemonster 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

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Well CookieMonster my advice may not be that ethical but I would suggest that you enroll your son in some sort of self defense course. As a parent and previous kid yourself you most certainly must realize that if you get too involved that it will only work against your son and he will get the beats more often. It is very sad that he was beaten so badly that he had to be hospitalized and I would hope that the school he attends has a zero tolerance on violence and that any child who becomes physically or emotionally abuse towards another is suspended. My advice for self defense course is because it will help to build your sons self esteem as well as better prepare himself in case of future attacks. He might really enjoy taking boxing lessons and actually get to meet some new friends also. I cannot speak of this other young man who is suppose to be a friend and whether or not he set your son up, but if he did then it would be wise for your son to stay away from him also. But if he is sitting with one of the bullies as a measure of his own self preservation then he just isn't mature enough at present to understand the meaning of being a true friend. Hopefully by involving the police in this latest incident you have somehow put some fear into these others who might want to attack your son and so this will cease and desist. Kids can be very mean and think they are so tough by beating on younger or weaker kids. But Karma has a way of balancing things out and hopefully in time they will learn that what they have done has consequences. Best of luck to you and I hope that your son is going to be alright and gets many well wishes from his real friends while he is in the hospital.

2006-11-21 05:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0 0

Go to the school and speak with the teachers, see if your son happend to be picked on more in the past weeks. maybe this was brewing for a while,......... let the courts handle this issue......to protect him in the future don't over protect him yet keep a wachful eye on him. Pick him up at the libiary, don't let him walk alone even with his friend. As for this "friend" how does he treat your son any other day. Thhis will help pine point if he was involved, talk to your sons bus driver if he has one. the children don't know but the bus driver hears a lot .... Just ask....

2006-11-21 18:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by foster-mom1338 1 · 0 0

Sorry that happened to your son. I think the best thing you can do is get him into a boxing class or some other form of self-defense. If hes getting jumped while walking home, maybe you should start saving up to buy him a car(if hes old enough) or maybe you can have a relative or neighbor pick him up after school. Some schools have after-school classes, your son could stay there till you get off work and you could pick him up.

2006-11-21 13:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cuteness 4 · 0 0

First of all I hope your son is OK! I know how mean kids can be. Have you tried to put your son in some kind of kick boxing class or something. I am not saying violence solves the problem but at least he will learn how to defend himself and be able to protect himself as well. Talk to him and find out why this kids are picking on him. Something happened to make him the target. I not saying he is to blame but something must have happened. Talk to the teachers and principals about this situation but make sure that they won't let the other kids find out that they are watching them. What grade is he in? Try to pick him up in the front of the school, but don't let him walk home. Kids can be very dangerous as you can see in the news so that's why you should talk to him and get him some kind of classes to defend himself. Good luck!

2006-11-21 13:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by heygirl0222 1 · 0 0

OK this just depends....r u a nice person who always trys to do good by the law and go thru the right steps in order to protect them or r u a rowdy kinda strait forward person....well me see im a good person , great mommie and a pretty smart student going for my associates in liberal arts.....BUT...when it comes to my kids(we have 3) I am VERY overprotective of them and so is my husband...we dont take sh** from anyone if the situation is only right and yes i have already been thru my child being picked on cause he is so shy and quiet...I went to the school talk to the teacher...then went back to the school the next day and made myself known to these kids...i also approached the moms and let them know VERY clearly to control there kids because now they will personally deal with me...my son has no problems anymore and actually these kids dont even bother him at all..they always say hi to him in my presence..we constantly talk to our kids and reassure them if anything bothers them or anyones hurts them in any way mommie and daddie WILL fix it and wont let anyhting happen to them...they can always count on us to keep them safe. and yes defense can help also....so i guess u can say yup I am a mean and overproctective ***** when it comes to anyone crossing my kids..if they dont deserved it...my kids are very respectful and really good kids....just not out spoken at all like my husband and I....u jsut cant be timid in a world like this!!!

2006-11-21 14:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by truthgrl 2 · 0 0

i gave it some thought, and i came up with nothing. to understand high school, watch a prison movie or Lord of the Flies or something. personally, I would prosecute to the full extent of the law, and take your son out and home school him on a loose leash. Let him pick his fields of study, and just make sure he's learning something. For social skills, make him enroll in a couple of group activities. Some classes. Art, self-defense, music, whatever. Unless he's going to prison, high-school isn't going to teach him that much anyway.

2006-11-21 13:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is a hard one but maybe this so called friend was on the bus with this lad because he is frightened of being beaten?

Talk to your son ask him what he wants and then LISTEN AND STEP BACK. As a parent myself this is very hard to do but sometimes when we try to protect our children we make the situation worse. Trust your son make sure he knows that you are there for him but the decision is his.

2006-11-21 13:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by multiflowercolour 2 · 0 0

Two choices. 1. Move 2. Kick boxing

2006-11-21 13:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by 2hot4u 2 · 0 0

Honestly, it would be well worth the expense to enroll him in a self defense (Karate) class. It will teach him self respect, discipline, and most of all - how to kick some butt!

2006-11-21 13:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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