Is it better to help an enemy anyway, or to let go around what comes around?

Question

If someone has been really mean to you, and they need you're help, would it be better to just help them anyway? And maybe give them more power to come right back at you.

Or just to "step out of the way", and let what goes around come back to them?

I know Wicca says, "Do not interfere with the Mother Goddess. But it is hard sometimes, to let her take care of it.

Answer 1

It depends on the person and what they need help with.

Let's suppose that someone is about to be hit by a train and you're able to pull him out of the way in time. If the person was mean to you by calling you names, he probably doesn't deserve to die and it would be good of you to save him. If the person was mean to you by killing off all of your family, perhaps you're better off letting the train hit him.

On the other hand, if the person was mean to you by calling you names, and he's about to get beat up for calling the wrong person names, maybe that's a lesson he needs to learn. Then again, maybe just the threat of getting beat up is enough of a lesson for him and you should step in to help him. It's really your call. You have to decide based on the persons involved and the situation.

It's really up to you to decide the pros and cons of doinig anything in any situation. No set of rules covers it all. You have a brain. Use it.

Answer 2

But also in wicca, Karma is our basis on treating life.
You could just let her do what she is going to do.

But also if you do help her, no matter how mean she was to you, what does that say about the kind of person you are. And her Karma will still come back to her, no matter if you do help or not, but if you do help her,
I 'm sure the mother goddess would accept that as an extreemly good and noble deed.


I know how it is waiting for karma to strike at those who jhave wronged you. I even Have some spells to speed it up. I have never used them and never will, and you should know why.


Doing the right thingis always the hardest thing to do, that's how you know it's the right thing.

Answer 3

First of all, I recall no saying that states "Do not interfere with the Mother Goddess." As she is present in all of us, that wouldn't make much sense. We are extensions of her. Secondly, it really depends on what this person has done. If the best way to really help this person is to let them learn their own lesson, then step away and let them walk their own path. Eveyone is responsible for their own destiny. If you believe that they really need your help and might get seriously hurt, you may decide that it's better to help the person and mend the bond of friendship.

I have no idea what this person had done to you, so I am just guessing at the severity of the situation.

Answer 4

It depends on the person, i agree.

It is noble and humble of you to want to reach out an help someone that has been mean to you, but really do you think anything you do will make a difference since they are mean to you in the first place?

Nobody here can help you with out the circumstances involved in the story. They can speculate and that's it.

If it were me and someone was mean they would have one chance and that is it. There are too many people in this world that need friend's and appreciate friend's to waste time on someone that is or has been mean. There is no reason to bully, ever.

Answer 5

I can't add much except to say this. There are a number of ways you can be beaten by an enemy. One of them is to hate them so much you let your opinion of yourself be harmed.

For example, Lets say you've always viewed yourself as a person who would help another. Then your enemy really needs your help, but you hate her so much you refuse.

Is there ever going to be a point where you might look back on that and feel that you didn't do the right thing?

If so, you need to really consider the situation.

Answer 6

Help them. It provides a good example to them, and so goes to your credit. And if they choose to use it against you, they are only making it worse for themselves down the line. There is no cheating of Karma. Even Elijah had to pay for killing off those magicians in the OT. That's why John the Baptist, the reincarnation of Elijah by Jesus own words, was beheaded.

Answer 7

Do what makes you respect YOU the most.

I will help if their life is in danger or I believe they have learned something. I will step aside if they are continuing a self-destructive pattern of behavior that they need to learn to stop doing.

You are depriving someone of their life lessons if you interfere with them receiving the consequences of their actions.

Answer 8

I think "what goes around, comes around" anyway...regardless of whether or not I help that 'enemy' in need...if they'd done something unkewl, it will come back to bite them in the tochis...

...however if I don't help them (and was capable of doing so), what may come back around to me?

Tough call...would depend on what kind of 'harm' or injustice had been done to me...and what kind of help they needed...

Be careful about religious texts and taking them too literally...ANYthing you do could be considered "interfering with the Mother Goddess"...y'know?

Answer 9

for some things we need more assertiveness, there are some books on it.but if we deem a person not worthy of life anymore let them fall in their own folly. If this person is one who has helped you in the past and/or may help you in the future then help them now.

Answer 10

Are you kidding? I think one of the best ways to get back at someone who's wronged you *is* to help them. If they have half a conscience, that put a lot of shame on their heads...