My co-worker recently lost of mother. I'm somewhat close to my co-worker. I mean, we don't chat on the phone or even talk every day for that matter. But in the year and half I've been working here, we've hung out maybe twice. Anyway, I've never met or known her mother. And both the wake and funeral are open to the public. Which is more appropriate for me to attend?
2006-11-21 05:06:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it's up to you. it's a personal choice. if you feel comfortable going to the wake, go. if not, just go to the funeral.
2006-11-21 05:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by monkiegirl37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wake is perfectly fine to be the only one you attend...having been in this situation a few times only at the other side of it I can pretty well assure you that the entire time will be a blur to her and although she may remember you attending, she likely won't worry which one it was you did come to.
The main thing is offering your condolences and letting her know that you are thinking of her in this time of loss.
Attending the funeral would normally be something you'd do for a close friend in this situation but really, there is no right or wrong choice one to choose.
Take care
2006-11-21 05:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the viewing hours. The wake happens after the funeral to celebrate the persons life by close family and friends and the funeral is also more personal. Send your sympathy through flowers and a card to let you know you care.
2006-11-21 06:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say funeral because it's shorter then the wake. If you go to the wake it's alot more sader because people can view the body and people are crying saying their last good byes. Something about knowing that your seeing them for the last time makes it alot harder for people to accept. The funeral has a short mass then off to the cemetary. Sorry to hear about your pals mom.
2006-11-21 05:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by teena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wake is generally intended as a celebration of life, in which you party like rock stars in honor of a dead friend. Since the co-worker's mother was not a friend of yours, it would be difficult for you to celebrate her life.
A funeral is generally intended as a mourning of death, in which you dress in black, and offer condolences to the friends and family of the departed. I would suggest this more formal service as the proper place to go.
Of course, if you and your co-worker party like rock stars when you hang out, or if you have no nice black outfits, it might be better to go to the wake, and nothing is stopping you from going to both.
2006-11-21 05:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-25 22:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. My fiance's father just passed away 2 weeks ago. There were friends there that he hasn't seen in 20 years and they attended both. But it's whatever you are more comfortable doing. I'm sure she'll see it as a great source of friendship coming from you. She'll need it, that is for sure.
2006-11-21 05:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wake. Funerals are generally confined to those close to the deceased, wakes are for anyone who is affected by the death, directly or otherwise. Since you are affected by your coworker, that would fit you.
2006-11-21 05:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by triviatm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its more appropriate for you to attend the wake. you will still be showing your sympathy but the funeral is more appropriate for close family and friends.
2006-11-21 05:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest going to the wake to pay your respects. I usually go to only the wake, when it's for someone I did not know too well.
2006-11-21 05:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋