that his mom was leasing and paying for us. I agreed to help out with some of the rent. All the while that we lived there, my boyfriend did not have a job, and his car broke down (which he said is my fault bc I didn't have a car then,and he took me alot of places). We fought everyday, about little and big issues alike. I told him weeks before I moved that I was very depressed, and that I wanted to move out.. we ignored our fights for several weeks, and after I threw him a huge bday party and gave him a $300 gift, we started fighting again daily, because of his lack of appreciation, his friends trying to advise our relationship when it wasn't asked etc.. believe me, I did my share of wrong things. When started fighting worse when money problems arrised(his mom pays everything for him!! So one weekend, I decided to buy a car, and he was mad bc he decided not to come, and he couldnt believe I still bought a car without his consent/presence.. I arrived to our house, we fought and I packed my things and left.. I felt bad leaving, but he didn't stop me. He is claiming that I used him for his car/house and now that I have a car i left.. He has only held a job for six months out of his life and I was tired of being the breadwinner.. I left for mental sanity but all his friends say I should have offered to pay for his car to get fixed before I bought mine.. who is right?
2006-11-21 04:50:20 · 10 answers · asked by 920135 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow im so glad all these people are here to give you their opinion about the situation. but from being a person who has known you in real life for so many years you know where I stand there is no way in any shape or form that you owe that man any money for his car he has leeched off you for so long and its not fair that you work so hard everyday to come home to a fat freeloader who just plays play station all day. you are so beautiful and smart and have a lot going for you. you are way to young to settle down anyways. he was never on your level and will never know what it is to be a man. i mean 20 years old and the longest job he ever held was 6 months? what a bum. and a mamma's boy is the worst to deal with. i mean his mom really messed him up handing him things his whole life he never knew what it was to actually have to work for something. and you coming from a whole different background where you had to work since you were 14 to have things. you learn to appreciate things. **** him and his weak *** friends who have to pay for him when they go out. those are the type of people who are never going to be nothing in life. so while your climbing that corporate ladder don't even look back just look ahead but don't forget where you came from and how hard you worked to get there and never give it up for no man!!! --- 143
2006-11-21 07:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't heard the word "Love" in your whole statement...but I will assumed you did love each others. A relationship is not about who is right or wrong...is based on Love, Trust, Respect, blaming each others and looking for faults will never do you any good. If your relationship was based on fights and disagreements you are both better off. Learn from this relationship and move on emotionally. Hopefully you will use this experience wisely and avoid repeating same bad habits that lead you towards an unhealthy relation.
2006-11-21 05:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by peach_tree67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only obligated yourself to paying for your share of the rent. Sounds like your bf had a piece of sh*t car to begin with. You are not responsible for his car. He should honestly get a job, be a MAN, and fix it his own self, or become gay because no woman wants a man that can't even take care of himself. I mean dude is living off his mom and tried to live off you...
2006-11-21 04:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by commonsince76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a job! And just because you were in a relationship does not make you financially responsible for him!
If his mother allowed the both of you to live in a house that she was paying for, that's her loss!
And these "friends" that are saying you should pay his way because of that are NOT real friends.
2006-11-21 04:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by jframeisu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were under no obligation to pay for his car to be fixed. He is a Mommy's Boy and a freeloader who needs to get a job instead of relying on his mother and girlfriend to pay for everything for him. He needs to get a life...I'm glad you realized that.
Good For You!!!
2006-11-21 04:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Emily B 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tell his friends to butt out of your life. If he is too lazy to get a job, then the problems he is having are his fault. If he drove you places, that is what a boyfriend is supposed to do to support their girlfriend, especially if they are too lazy to get a job and have nothing better to do.
Move on with your life, stop talking to his loser friends, and consider yourself lucky you didn't marry this loser.
2006-11-21 04:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by ZCT 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you did the right thing leaving. His mom can get him a car. She has paid for everything else
2006-11-21 05:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really, it doesn't matter who's right. what's important is that you've removed yourself from a bad relationship. just focus on making the rest of your life better than the time you were stuck with that loser.
2006-11-21 04:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow darling that guy sounds like a freak, then his dad is probably a freak and his mom probably also supports his freak dad, ditch him, there are way more intelligent men out there. advice, if you see a guy and you like him,,LET HIM KNOW!!! good luck babe.
2006-11-21 05:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont pay for it, no way
he should get a job and pay for it him self, u didnt break the car!!!!
2006-11-21 04:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by En 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋