It would have been my friends baby. My question is do I tell him that I was prenant (didn't get a chance since I only had two days to think I was pregnant) or do I not tell him since we are not dating just good friends? I don't want him to freak out on me but I don't want to go through this alone
2006-11-21 04:45:26 · 16 answers · asked by rockerchic 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
wow honey ....i am so sorry. as far as telling the father, only you can make that decision... just remember, even though you only knew for two days, you got attached to that baby, but he may not feel that way or be able to understand your pain... so don't be surprised if he doesn't react the way you would expect him to. but you did say he was your friend and hopefully he'll understand and be there for you. accept my condolences and good luck to you!
2006-11-21 04:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've lost two children. I feel your pain, though it sounds like your not feeling it yet. The pain will come, and when it comes you need someone around who has been though it. You need to tell him so you can grieve together.
Also, if you have a friend who has lost a baby, talk to them, too. People who haven't gone through it think they know how it feels to lose a baby, but they don't and their sympathy will feel fake. They'll also eventually make snide comments about you not knowing what it's like to be a mother, though they know full well that you were pregnant at one time. You still feel a mother's love.
2006-11-21 13:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by scriptorcarmina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely go up to him and tell him about it.... he also played a part in getting you pregnant...... if u and him are good friends then he will understand what your going through. he should like any good friend help you in some way. if its more than friendship between the 2 of you'll then go ahead and tell him
2006-11-21 12:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by crazy nigga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. that's a tough one. I think it would be so much better to tell him now then later.
It will be difficult, I am sure. But he would probably be more devastated, and lose trust in you, if you spilled the beans later.
Good luck, that's a hard situation you're in!
2006-11-21 12:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffy Rover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. Do you have anyone else you can lean on during this time? If not I would tell him, you never know he would hopefully be very supportive. Especially if your "good" friends. Good Luck. And my Condolences to you.
2006-11-21 12:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell him, because if he's as good a friend as you think, he will be there with you while you go through your loss. It's his loss, too. He might be more understanding than you think.
2006-11-21 12:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by just here 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just an opinion here,
but every father should know that he created life, whether the baby survives or not. Knowledge is power, I'm sorry for your lost
2006-11-21 12:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. If he's that good of a friend then he'll be there for you. You don't deserve to go through this alone.
2006-11-21 12:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him, you shouldn't have togo through it alone and if he is a good friend he will be there for you
2006-11-21 12:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by soon2b mommy of 4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg i feel sorry for you x x x x
only you know your friend but if it was me id tell him just so he can be there for you. you shouldnt go through this alone
im so sorry for your loss
2006-11-21 12:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋