OK, my girlfriend wants to break up and I respect that except that she says that it is because we have different taste in hobbies and music. I think she really is breaking up because she is Very social and adaptable and I am actually a little shy and I try to fit in with her friends but I am not as involved in the conversation (she says). Do you think that she is breaking up because of this (like the hobbies and music are just a front). I respect that she wants to split up. Should I get counseling to be more outgoing or are girls okay with a guy who is not super outgoing? Also if so, I am interested in meeting a girl who is, even within a few hours of me is okay (Atlanta).
2006-11-21 04:38:26 · 4 answers · asked by dwsum41@yahoo.com 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
It sounds like she just gave you a lame excuse to cover the real reason why she wants to break up, but of course, I don't know for sure. But if being social is a problem for you, (trust me, it's a problem for me to. It's hard for me to find things to talk about with people I'm not close to) then she might feel like you guys have less in common. I definately don't think you need counseling, I think you need a girl who's more pro-active about helping to bring you out of your shell.
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2006-11-21 04:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it may or it may not be a "front" like you say but the reality is she does not love you. Hobbies and music are not a good reason to break up. As someone said before just be yourself. The woman that loves you will love you even if you are very social or just a little social. Don't try to change yourself you are a very special person and take it easy don't rush into any relationships or you are going to end up like now. Just wait and meet new girls and you will see that the right one is just around the corner!
2006-11-21 12:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Skull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be true that she finds it hard to live a more quiet and secluded lifestyle, specially if you tend to impose it on her -even without realizing!
In any case, it doesn't sound like the only reason to break up on. Talk it over with her and, if you are in love with her, try to give and take: try sharing time with her group of friends some days, and get other days for the two of you to relax on your own. it's not as much a case of changing the way you are, but of compromising tastes in order to adapt to each other.
Good luck!
2006-11-21 12:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself.
2006-11-21 12:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by eating_snow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋