advice please...?

Question

i have had a weird year and not sure what to do..let me explain..

i was going to buy a salon i had worked in for 4 years with another lady who had worked there for 3 months..i got her the job there!
the lady who owns the salon was 1 of my closest friends..until now!!
my business partner selfishly called me up telling me she was going to buy it alone without me!!
took a while but i got over it but was hurt and upset with her and my supposed 'best mate', lucky i know now what they are both like...but now im jobless seeking work!!
the area i live in is quiet and no work is about..i want to do something else..thinking about going back to uni[,finished my uni course 2 years ago!] to do a top up year to get a degree in september..shall i do this??
or shall i do something else..i feel i have come to a cross roads and dont know which way to turn!!help!!
appreciate your answers...thank you!!

Answer 1

Don't get upset. Think of how lucky you have been this time as the whole situation once you were all in the business together would have got ugly. Thay have done you a favour by not including you and now your free to go it alone. What ever you do, do it for yourself. Why not use this narrow escape to build a better life and maybe your own business for YOU. I have just started my own catering business due to my so called work mates pulling it apart and telling me how it will not work? well I have now started it and because of whet thay said, it has helped me to be more determined to make it work. good luck

Answer 2

I think you need to get down to the absolute basics and decide what kind of person you are and what you really want for yourself. If you were going to buy the salon just coz it was there and available then could be these nasty women have saved you from drifting into a future that might not have suited you. EG are you the kind of person who is OK with tough business stuff like sacking people? Sounds like you are too 'soft' - not a bad thing in my book but not always great for business. Equally, don't drift into another uni course just because you are jobless. Get some professional careers advice or simply talk to friends and family - they may see qualities you didnt know you had and that could help you see the future more clearly.

Answer 3

Maybe you could take a break of some kind for a few days/week(s), e.g. go somewhere that takes you out of your usual environment that can provide you with some new, and perhaps challenging, experience(s) and/or where you can meet some new (and perhaps interesting and stimulating?) people ... this might help you generate ideas and/or gain some clarity about which direction to follow and what it is you REALLY want to do. I've heard lots of people say that having a back-up plan is important, e.g. you could plan to go to Uni as a back-up if nothing else presents itself to you between now and then ... you are always free to change your mind at any point so ... what have you got to loose? Good luck!
P.S. About the 'ladies' who let you down, that sounds like a difficult and upsetting experience and I hope you succeed in whatever it is you decide to do, which will be the best way to 'get your own back' (not that I'm suggesting you should seek revenge). I'd just get on with my own thing and put the experience with them down to 'business' rather than 'personal' factors ... I don't know about you but I've heard lots of stories about friendships that have gone wrong due to people becoming or planning to become involved in business ventures together.

Answer 4

Get back to Uni!

I did this later on in life (25) but i had a wife and 1 kid (soon to be 3 kids before my first day in work) and it was really hard to get by. i was working every hour of the day (5 jobs) as well as studying. it would have been so much simpler to do without any serious ties. however, with the extra years of maturity i had i still amnaged to get a first, but if i did it when 18 i might have only just scraped a pass.

when you are at uni you will have to reflect on what you want to do in the next stage of life (nothing is forever, except my wife and kids) instead of rushing into a career you might want to jack in in a few years. You will still have the same opportunities you have now in 3 or 4 years time after a degree, but with all that extra maturity and knowledge.

also, whilst at uni you will have the biggest party ever!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

You can never have too much education. While you're there, it'll take your mind off the salon situation. Think of soemthing you love doing as a hobby, then try to get a job doing the closest thing to that. It's a sure fire recipe for a happy and prosperous life. You may want to relocate to Canada. I understand the economy is booming there. I know a place where you can get free room and board, too. Only one catch, though. All they serve is vegetarian.

Answer 6

How much do you love the salon work? Are you mostly just frustrated by the recent situation or have you considered this before already? It can't ever hurt to go back to school - it might help answer a few questions or bring to mind some things you maybe hadn't previously considered. Hope that helps!

Cheers!

Answer 7

dear lydia find another salon to buy and do your old friends over by stealing their customers. or take your uni course to the limit and get a well paid job working for someone else

Answer 8

Yes. Go back to Uni while you still remember the subject studied. Get one over, your so called, ex business partner

Answer 9

Maybe move to a new area and start up your own business? -Or get a job in another salon, at a higher rate of pay and then you'll know more stuff.

Answer 10

If I were you I would jump on a plane and head for deepest Africa and get lost working in an orphanage for one year. I bet when that year is up you would feel much better and you might find the man of your dreams.