Many homophobic men like to call transgendered people fags and yell calumnies at any man that has made the decision to live HER life as a woman. The question is why don't men or any homophobic person realize that not all transgendered or transvestite(they are different) are gay? Some do it for sexual pleasure and some do it for other reasons. There are men that dress up that live normal lives and that have happy marriages. Why is that taboo when me for example, sleeping with another woman is socially sexy and acceptable? double standard, maybe? No rude answers just open minded people.
2006-11-21 04:22:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Unfortunately that's the majority of our society. We stereotype and would rather blindly hate with ignorance that which we don't understand, rather than become educated. We spend too much of our lives following the leadership of others rather than take the time to open a book or talk with someone who's been there. You're right, not all transgendered people are gay. Transgendered, transsexual, transvestite, and crossdressers are NOT all the same thing (and you'd be surprised at how many people answer questions on here saying a transgendered person is someone who's changed their sex, that is NOT true!!) How can you answer a question and not know about what you're answering or how can you answer a question and not even know your correct definitions?
I know plenty of female to male transsexuals who date men, and I also know plenty of male to female transsexuals that date women. In society's eyes these people would be considered gay and lesbian, but what people DON'T realize is that their sexual orientation never changed, just their GENDER presentation. Just like in my case, before my transition, I was "female" and dated other females. Society called me a "lesbian". Now, i'm a female to male transsexual and I STILL DATE WOMEN. but NOW, in SOCIETY'S eyes, I'm viewed as a "straight man". Did my sexuality change? NO...only my GENDER PRESENTATION.
It's all about perceptions, double standards, and the societal "norm". The porn industry has viewed lesbianism as "norm" that's why people don't have much disgust towards it. It's also catered to straight men, whereas gay male sex is not as widely accepted because it hasn't been brought into the "mainstream" porn industry for example.
2006-11-21 05:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is due to our upbringing. I was forever told that it is wrong for a man to want another man sexually and God forbid if a man should decide to dress as a woman - he was always automatically called "fag." There was never an understanding about this particular way of life and it is difficult for many to accept since it is really just now becoming a "standard." I think the more exposure we have about these kinds of things, the better we will understand it. I know my ex-in-laws preached about how wrong it is and never knew that their younger son was gay (he told me) even though his roommate was gay. Denial is much easier for people to deal with than acceptance. I think it is also a matter of a person's experience. How many of us are in contact with gay people on a daily basis? Surely, the most I've seen of transgendered (not even sure what that means) or transvestite is on television - the same for crossdressers (To Wong Foo...). So, its just a matter of someone helping us to understand - that will help us accept. :)
I am accepting of everyone but the church that I was brought up in preaches against all of that. Sometimes, we have to get out of our own box and see the big picture. Sometimes, people need help to see that picture to understand it. :)
2006-11-21 04:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that the idea of a woman sleeping with another woman is sexy to a lot of people (read: straight men). Just look at how much male-oriented porn includes "hot lesbians". But, when it comes down to an actual choice of living, i.e. you actually love your girlfriend and live as a couple, that's when eyebrows are raised.
Besides, I've always suspected that the main qualm people have with gay males is their sex life, i.e. sodomy. We live in patriarchal societies, and straight males feel that seeing gay males, tranvestites or transexuals is an affront to their masculinity. I have no idea why but I love to tell homophobic men that they must be insecure with their own masculinity to even feel threatened by non-conventional males.
I feel that lesbians aren't disapproved of as much because they simply don't pose a threat to straight men's sense of being male.
2006-11-21 04:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Andromeda_Carina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
besides the undeniable fact that that's only that straightforward. The readiness to look at and look at distinctive factors of view makes for an open thoughts. it relatively is an skill that few are born with or maybe fewer improve into. plenty as I desire I had an open thoughts, i be attentive to that i don't. that's suitable. Having an open thoughts makes you a greater valuable individual.
2016-10-22 11:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by wach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It comes down to ignorance. Most people don't understand the complexities of other individuals and are only aware of those in similar situations to their own. As to thinking two women sleeping together is sexy...that's just a given. Women are beautiful beings.
2006-11-21 04:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....growing up and sneaking peeks at dirty mags, you can bet there was always girl on girl. So i just believed that was beyond normal and ultimately a turn on. But with men, i could`nt imagine 2 men getting intimate with one another. It`s because a man is doing what a woman and man would do together whereas women don`t do what a man and a woman would do together.
Therefore 2 men + penetration = gross
2 women + no penetration =risque
2006-11-21 04:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
men accept female homosexuality because the only see themselves some how scoring a threesome. what I don't understand is why are women more comfortable with lesbianism than male gays?
as far as trannys it's just that people don't like what they don't understand. I feel sorry for them.
2006-11-21 07:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there's a lot of double standards and ignorance and hate out there when it comes to all parts of the GLBT communities, even from within the communities themselves.
2006-11-21 06:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a double standard . it's just something that will take time to overcome. the world would be a much better place if people weren't so hung up on judging what other people do and pay more attention to what they do themselves
2006-11-21 04:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, it's interesting. I know a lesbian who is even uncomfortable seeing two guys make out. LOL I'm not really sure why it's easier for the public to accept "lipstick" lesbians than it is for them to accept gay men.
2006-11-21 04:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by E B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋