alot of nasty name-calling,rumours and lies in my locality..a smear campaign bout me etc,been called all disgusting names..cos i hurt an ex of mine,who is a very sensitive person.his pals have followed me and been nasty etc.how do i deal with them and the situation i unfortunately got myself into.
2006-11-21 04:08:45 · 15 answers · asked by blondedoll00 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
hire a hit man.... that should solve the problem.
2006-11-21 04:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by _DestroyingAngel_ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
My sincere advise to you, is go back to the source? what do I mean by that? go and talk face to face with your EX no matter how difficult that might be. If you need to apologuise the eat humble pie & do it? if there are loose end from the relationship then they need tying off, you need to clean up your mess, otherwise the ending will continue to be a festering wound on both sides.
Because until & unless you do the chinese wipsers and crass rubbish talked about you wont get sorted out.
**when you arrange to meet with your EX choose a nuetral location which wont provoke negative memories or bad associations for either of you.
**Think very carefully what you want to say, & why you want to say these things.
**Be careful NOT to add petrol onto the flames or there is a chance to make things worse. Remember your intention should be healing hurt feelings & ending things but without your EX feeling bad about you any more, yes! its quite possible to do this if you have the courage & are fully prepared to take the risk.
If you can find a good ending (closure) to the relationship my guess is that the rest of the non sense will resolve itself. And your EX will have far more respect for you ultimately.
Take courage, Best Regards IR
2006-11-21 04:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This most likely will blow over soon and no one but your ex and a couple friends will ever remember anything about it. The best thing here is to not stoop to thier level. Ignore them. If confronted by someone asking, say they are lies started by your ex and his friends. They are untrue. Nothing more be said or done. If you seek vengence, go on with your life, be happy and ignore them. That is the best dish to serve to them. Let them look liek the gossiping, hateful people they are.
OH And go get a NEW cuter Boyfriend.
2006-11-21 04:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation myself and i know how difficult it can be.
The best possible thing you can do is have no contact with any of the people involved wherever possible.
The less contact you have the quicker they will get board or get over it and the quicker you will be able to move on.
I ended up having to change my phone number as the guy in question kept on at me, and the people that know you will not be interested in the rumours.
Say strong and it will get better, i promise you.
Take care xx
2006-11-21 04:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nutty Nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to contact everyone that was in your circle of friends. explain to them that you broke up and if they are true friends they will not beleive anything that the other person is saying. Also tell them that you will not talk about that person also. BELIVE ME.....once this person says a few things to people. they will keep hearing that you are not reacting. This will kill the satisfaction they get by making you mad. After a month, things will be better. Trust me. You have heard of take the high road? well take it. If someone says something to you like "guess what she/he said.." just say...." it doesnt matter.
2006-11-21 04:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by the need to know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
comparable sistuation..i think sorry for you in a case like this one..i might purely stroll via like each and every thing is sweet and gravy for me..do no longer permit it hassle a minimum of whilst he's around. Mark my word, as quickly a the different women ex call her back and that they artwork issues out, their gonna come back at the same time and your ex is gonna be calling you.. he's probably gona say something to make you think of it became your fault yet do no longer fall for him!
2016-10-17 08:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others, try and ignore it. Have some friends by your side. If you can't deal that way, try and get away for awhile. It can be hard living in a smaller town I am sure.
2006-11-21 05:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by U2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Round up some faithful friends and go on holiday or travelling, come back and people will have forgotten about it. Today's newspaper wraps tomorrow's fish and chips.
2006-11-21 04:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by mishmash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and get a job on a cruise ship to get away from it all and see the world while getting paid and enjoying yourself
2006-11-21 04:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by sladelover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try to ignore it, he cant be that sensitive a person if he is letting this happen to you....i dont know ,can you talk him into getting it to stop.
2006-11-21 04:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by grogzie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and ignore it. Try to show that you are a nice guy and if you arent, that you have change and have learnt your lesson
2006-11-21 04:10:48 · answer #11 · answered by shano 2006 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋