i'm a single child and i luv my parents but they are overprotective. what should i do?

Question

my parents worry too much about me. i luv them very much but i can't stand their overprotectiveness. it's as if i'm suffocating. please help! i need advice

Answer 1

I am a mom of 3 so it is not just the fact that you are a single child because I am over protective also. It is just that there is so much out in the world today that could hurt our kids that were not around when we were young-such as internet meetings. I just let my children know when and where I am concerned-we talk and if they do not let me down I know that I can trust them and "loosen the leash" a bit more the next time. Talk to you parents and see if they could lighten up about one certain thing and let them know they can trust you. Don't blow it and the next time they may trust you more. Another good thing would be to include them with your friends from time to time or at least let them meet who you are hanging with. Many kids go down the wrong path after meeting the "wrong" friends. You need to earn their trust but communication is key.

Answer 2

Well my advice to u is that if u did anything bad like sneek out of the house then your parents will be over protective for awhile, but if not u need to maybe write a note telling them of your feelings and lay it on their pillow or pillows! Make sure u do it before they go to bed and then u go to bed so when they r done reading it they won't want to wake u up to talk to u! Don't worry my parents r the same way and when I write them notes they talk to me and ease up a bit about stuff!
Cya, A.J.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. My parent's are very overprotective of me too. I hope this will help, but if you want to talk to me you can. My email address is [e-mail]

Do your parents still treat you like you're a little kid, and try to stop you from doing all the fun stuff other teenagers do? Read this guide to learn how to deal with it!

1) Find out which parent is more lenient, and always work to bring him or her over to your point of view before asking for something from the other parent. For example, if you want to go to a party, and you know your mum is more relaxed about it, persuade her first, then she will be on your side when you talk to your dad. Parents try to work as a unit, and if you split them up they will be weaker.
2) Know your parents' weaknesses. Use them to your benefit.
3) Compromise. Buy yourself a cell phone, and promise that if you are allowed to go out, you will call your parents every 30 or so minutes to let them know you're ok. Calmly discuss things, and try to work out a solution that suits your both. Remember,your parents want you to be happy, but they also want you to be safe.
4) Act responsibly. You can't expect your parents to treat you like an adult if you still act like a kid. Clean your own room, cook your own meals, offer to look after younger siblings, don't throw hissy fits, etc.
5) Know that dating can be a big issue for everyone with overprotective parents (mostly girls). Reassure your parents that so-and-so is respectful to you, kind etc. If your partner doesn't object, then arrange a meeting between them and your parents. Carefully groom your partner, so s/he will come across well. But not too much, or they will appear creepy.
6) Realize that sometimes, your parents really do know best.
7) Don't expect your parents' attitudes to change overnight. Slowly build their trust, always be home by the time they said, and stick to the rules that you've both agreed on. Gradually, your parents will realise that they can trust you to be responsible and start giving you more freedom without you even having to

Answer 4

show them that you're independent, but without showing any aggression or rebellion. talk to them and tell them how you feel. ask them to trust you little by little. start with the small things, like introducing your group of friends to your folks, or by inviting some friends over for lunch or for a drink while your parents are there. once you've gained their full trust, they'll stop being overprotective. :)

Answer 5

i am in the same issue. sit down with them and tell them all of the semi dangerous things you hae done in your life, and they'll notice that you are still alive today. tell them about your friends and how they can do more things than you can, explain how your missing out on all the fun. most of all, prove to them that you are responible, by doing chores, and helping out.
your parent love you and want the best for you, that is why they are doing this.

Answer 6

Well i am in the same situation. You should go ahead and live with cause i did and lok know my mother doesn't care now , i mean like she let me go out and i just have to tell with who and that i will be back by this certain time and also that i will be very careful and nothing will happen if it does i will call you. promise!!!!

Answer 7

Tell them you would like to be independent in the sense that you don't want to be nagged constantly. Talk to them. Tell them you value and respect them but you'd like a bit of space to be urself, to do things the way you like. But at the same time don't forget they love you and you're all that they have. Respect their age and their experience with life....

Cheers!!!

Answer 8

i know how u feel my parents are the exact same way the only way i can go out is with my 16 year old cousin. just tell them u need more freedom

Answer 9

Thats their job honey .As you get old enough they will back off maybe. Talk to them about it .Depends on your age but the world is crazy. Put yourself in their shoes!

Answer 10

The best way out of this is to grow up.