he did somethings before the summer came and i dumped him. then for a while i wouldn't take him back. then after i said some things we got back together. what can i do to keep him from hurting me?
2006-11-21 03:57:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't. The only way you can keep from being hurt in a relationship is not to get in one in the first place. He must have some good qualities if you took him back. Try focusing on those and try to forgive the things he did wrong in the first place. (And by forgiving, I mean don't keep bringing it up and throwing it in his face.) If he ever does anything like what he did the first time again, dump him.....dump him so fast his head will spin and don't take him back ever again.
2006-11-21 04:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by amaladyrose 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on what happened before summer. To prevent him from hurting you again, you might have to go over that incident again and tell him what went wrong and why you dumped him. Also, specify clearly what hurts you and at the same time, make a conscious effort to know what hurts him also. That way, he will know that it is not just he who is trying to understand but also you.
2006-11-21 04:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by l_kur 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he cheated on you maybe?? Well you can never full proof a relationship so you won't get hurt. You have to decided if he is worth the risk. Also he should be trying to rebuild that trust with you. If he is not then he will probably do what he did before. Good luck.
2006-11-21 04:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Glee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get rid!! because he's just a waste of time and he'll carry on doing whatever he's doing and your gut tells you this, your heart wants what you first had, and lets face it that'll be long gone and your head is all confused trying to sort your heart out.. But come on do you really want to spend your time crying over this idiot who has no respect or love for you! AND IF YOU THINK YOU'LL BE THE ONE THAT CHANGES HIM YOUR WRONG!!
YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO COS YOUR GUTS ARE TELLING YOU , Thats why you've asked this question........... GET OUT GIRL GO AND ENJOY LIFE ....
2006-11-21 04:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by free2fall67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to decide whether or not what he did was bad enough to leave him for good. Chances are if you let him get away with this, and take him back....something like it will happen again. Are you prepared to put yourself in this situation all over again??
2006-11-21 04:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by GO SOONERS!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do outside of not let your heart get too involved. If he is going to hurt you he will. If you are afraid that he will, don't be with him. If you are not going to put your heart into it what is the point of the relationship. Sounds to me like you were hoping for a miracle.
2006-11-21 04:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely nothing! Well...don't be with him. If you are afraid he is going to do it again, then that means you don't trust him. You can't stop him from doing things that will hurt you...he is bound to do them anyways. It sounds like you are young, so get out there and find someone new who treats you well.
2006-11-21 04:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
If a guy does something worth breaking up with him, chances are it was for a reason. I'd say don't even let him back in your life.
2006-11-21 03:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by anothermelody2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the key. Talk to him, and make yourself available for him to do the same.
2006-11-21 04:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by á?¦â?¥á?¦Ceciliaá?¦â?¥á?¦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IT REALLY DEPENDS ON WHAT HE DID! IF HE CHEATED THEN I WOULDN'T GO OUT WITH HIM ANY MORE IF I WERE YOU. AND SINCE YOU DID CHOOSE TO GO OUT WITH HIM, I WOULD TELL HIM THAT IF HE HURTS ME AGAIN THEN IT IDS OVER FOR GOOD, WHAT DID HE DO TO YOU THAT MADE HIM BREAK UP WITH YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE? TELL ME WHAT HAPPENS PLEASE AT UPPITTYUP15HEATHER@YAHOO.COM , THANKS! GOODLUCK WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP, BUT I WOULDN'T DO THINGS FOR HIM THAT WOULD MAKE HIM HAPPY AND MAKE ME UPSET.
2006-11-21 04:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by uppittyup15heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋