Soon I will have the opportunity to choose what college I want to go to for the next four years. My parents are pressuring me to stay at home while going to a community college, the thing is I have great grades and I also would not be able to major in what I have wanted to do for many years. Is this selfish? They are mad because they think I want to go away just to be with my boyfriend, but he is not even the reason why I decided to go away...he was completely surprised when I told him I was moving near him to go to a college that is near his. Is it wrong for me to want to leave? I do not even have a good relationship with my parents and I will be paying for college. Should I leave home?
2006-11-21 03:57:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am only 17, but I have always had alot of responsibily and am already a manager at my work...so I am pretty mature
2006-11-21 04:02:42 · update #1
I personally believe that if you stay home and go to a community college, you will not get to experience the "college life"- however, I think if you do stay home and go to community college, you have a much less chance of getting involved in things that will distract you from your classes and school work. College was a great time for me- I was always doing something, and was involved with many things- but there are so many people that I saw do poorly because their social life became more important than their school work. College life (on campus) is a life that everyone should experience at some point of their life- just keep as focused as you can if you do opt to go away.
-EA
2006-11-21 04:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents love you then they should be supportive of your choice. You want to go an better yourself so you can have a great furture this is something you have dreamed about all your life now here is the opportunity and this type of stuff only comes around once. Just sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your parents and let them know that you love them, but you have goals and dreams that you want to acheive and you dont want to go to a community college because you feel that it will not help you get where you are trying to get in life, You are not being selfish they have lived there lives and now they should give you the opportunity to live yours. I mean they should be proud they have a daughter that has the grades that you have and wants something out of life. the word college and succeed should make them feel proud that you are even considering that.. You have to live your life for you and your future. Although you having to pay for it is a lot but you can get sholarships and grants now that can helpo pay for your college and financial aid as well. talk to your parents dont stay because they want you to, because you are going to regret it and you will never forgive them from holding you back from your dreams.
2006-11-21 12:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your dreams and keep in touch with your parents. Do not let them pressure you into staying home. You have a dream so follow it. Sometimes it's like parents are selfish and want you all to themselves. I have been there! Tell them how much you really appreciate their advice but it is your decision to follow the path that seems right. Call them regularly and hopefully they will understand. Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2006-11-21 12:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should move even though it may break your parents hearts there are not the one living in your life, gong to a community college does not look as good as a 4 year college.
2006-11-21 12:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to follow your dreams. Your parents can say what they want to say but you are the one that needs to be able to support yourself and a family later in life. I would run. If you are paying for it and don't have a very good relationship with them then go and enjoy your life. Remember... nobody is going to worry about your life working out but you. And you need to make sure it is what you want. Don't do anything to make anyone else happy. You will be miserable if you do.
P.S. My sis in law went to college to make everyone happy. She was miserable and ended up failing out after the first quarter. Then she joined the army (none of us knew that was coming) and she loves it. She is happy and doing well and we are all proud. Good luck
2006-11-21 12:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever makes you happy. If you're the one paying for your education, your parents don't really have any say. Sure, they can say what they'd like for you to do, but it's still up to you.
I'll just say that I had the same opportunity. I was playing basketball though, so I had a scholarship. I listened to my parents and stayed local. I still, to this day, think I should have left. But that's my fault because I listened to them and not myself.
2006-11-21 12:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay home as long as possible and save money .
2006-11-21 11:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that, do what you need to do to get where you want to be.
2006-11-21 12:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Huey from Ohio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. How old are you .You sound very responsible.You deserve your own life.
2006-11-21 12:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by Victorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋