I have a crush?

Question

I like this guy i work with we were flirting and having fun .I started getting a queezy feeling in my stomach.I like him alot.I told a girl at work i liked him.I finally told him i had a crush and he said he thought i was sweet,and he was flattered.He since then has stop gazing into my eyes and touching my arm but looks at me and looks away when i look at him.he sometimes stumbles over his words.He wont sit with me alone anymore.He bought my dinner at work and gives me stuff.some people have mentioned that he brags on my work.My stomach has butterflies and my heart beats fast when i am around him.Before he found out i had a crush along with everyone else knowing he was really flirting.Now he has toned it down some.He never e-mails me but he has a girlfriend and he has said he loves her.At the same time he will complain too.What are the signs he feels the same?He brought a scrap book of there pictures together and wanted me to see what he look like in the pics.he still flirts an blushes

I have a crush on a guy i work with the thing i forgot to mention is i am married and he has a girlfriend.He still flirts he showed me his tongue and was showing how he had his tongue pierced and proceeded to tell me his penis size.however he brought pictures of him and his girlfriend to work to show me.I told him i had a crush and he proceeded to tell me all the above.He said i was sweet and he was flattered.

Answer 1

Thanks for your question. There is a lot going on here.

Sounds like you have a full blown crush: queasy stomach, butterflies, heart racing. This guy is "it" for you! He apparently feels the same, too, or at least he did at one time. Now, though, he seems to have backed off a bit. And he has a girlfriend.

I think that your love may not be returned, alas. I think you may just have to admire your hottie from afar, because he does, after all, have a girlfriend, and has stopped flirting as much with you. The fact that he brought in pictures of him and her together is a big sign that says, "I'm taken."

I think you were brave to tell him how you felt, because that means you risk rejection. Fortunately he hasn't rejected you. You say he still looks and smiles at you; he brags on your work, and he smiles. But he has a girlfriend.

Just be thankful you work with a guy who's easy on the eyes, and who is kind and friendly. Be professional, and maybe ease back on your flirting too, because he is taken. He might warm up to you a little more as a work friend once he sees you're more professional and not quite so hot toward him.

I work with a guy who's very good looking, and I've had a crush on him for years. We're both married, but it's just nice to work with someone who's a real hottie. ;)

Cheers, K

Answer 2

It's a great feeling to have a crush on someone.
Thing is, he's got a girlfriend. You've made your feelings clear to him? He knows you're in-love with him. He doesn't seem like the kinda guy that will cheat on his girlfriend, and complaining and working through rough areas are what relationships are about. He loves her, not matter what. You can't wait around for him to leave her for you.

You should move on, and find someone for you. Butterflies won't go away, but you will fall in-love again, and I hope you find someone really special for you.

You should talk to him, and be honest. Tell him how you feel, and that you would like to be friends again. Maybe he's trying to not hurt your feelings, by keeping a distance. Talk to him :)

On the other hand, depending on what kind of person you are, you could pursue him recklessly, and and really turn on the charm. Ask him out and see what happens. It's too desperate/ daring for me, but it's your life. You need to act on what you feel is best for you.

Personally, If I had a crush on a man, and I know he has a girlfriend, I would never tell him. It would feed his ego and ruin our friendship. Besides, if a man wants me, he needs to show me his feelings and pursue me, not the other way around!

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

So your saying you are checking out a guy thats already taken... He's at work all day with you and his girlfriend is at home all day or does he expect her to look after the house, kids etc, while he'e only trying to get into your pants.......Hello he is showing you pictures of his girlfriend and tells you stories of them! Doesn't that scare you off knowing how he is like with his current woman that probably doesn't even know he's trying to have an affair with a co worker? Well he was probably just innocent flirting but your getting carried away by having this so called crush girl!
So what if the other woman finds out about you then what are you going to do or say to her when she confronts you on that issue? Chances are he will quit his job after he gets into your pants and complains to you with all his sad stories or his lovelife with his woman he goes home to every night and probably calls her all day long to say hi etc. Don't think we don't understand here because you are trying to bother another woman's man and he is OPENLY telling you he loves her and so and so..... Only teenagers get crushes. You on the other hand are a woman and need to grow up and find your own man before it gets any worser then it already is! good luck! sorry to his poor woman....

Answer 4

He likes you.. He doesn't want to lead you on because he has a girlfriend.. Cut the dude some slack.. Find other people to hang out with..

If you two are ever single at the same time, maybe it will work out.. But 1) Don't wait around.. 2) Don't try to force it.. If it is meant to be it will happen.

-HtJ

Answer 5

I think he likes you but as toned down the contact because is can't act on it. He can't act on his attraction toward you because he is already in a relationship. Once you revealed your feelings for him, he decided to back off because he didn't want to lead you onto thinking that you two might actually have something one day. He likes you, but there is nothing he can do about it. So that's why he's acting strange around you. You can't be with someone whose already in a relationship and I don't think he's willing to end his relationship to be with you. All relationships have problems, but it's not enough for him to want to leave her. So until then, there is nothing that you or he can do. Except to just continue flirting with each other until he makes up his mind :-)

Answer 6

He just says it is not the time for us yet. Go on with your life, he doesn't like to break up with his girilfriend of some reason. He likes you a lot but he likes her too. And she was first (unfortunetly).
The point is you are available, make your self a bit not availabe and you eill see your standing point emidiatly.

(i ment get a boy friend and see his reactionn, if he backs up than he was just feeling sorry for you (the timing), if he starts to fight let him come to you but SLOWLY)

Answer 7

If he has a girlfriend...I would move on. There is nothing worse that being the girl that helps break up another couple...because usually your relationship with the guy won't last.

Answer 8

Sounds to me like since he has a gf hes trying to deny that he likes you back if they break up then totally go out with him ;p

Answer 9

trust me rite now im in 7th grade and a guy that was in my 5th grade class has liked me for 2 yrs and i just found out. he asked me out and gave me a diamond ring on my bday. we used to talk b4 i new that. its been a little ovr a month and now i can start to talk to him reaguraly again. just give it some time

Answer 10

Oh no, no, no. you could soak the wood. you could stroke the wood. you could laminate the wood. you could varnish the wood. you could stain the wood. it is likewise possible to wax the wood. you could gently sand the wood. yet by no ability, ever weigh down the wood. What a shame! *Edit* And for God's sake, do no longer forget to buff the wood!