1 of my friends (ill call her barbara!) has recently got 2gtha with a boi who is a year older than us. we wer really hapi 4 her coz shes liked him 4 a long time. theyve been 2gtha 4 a few months now n me n my best friend (ill call her betty) think shes leaving us out. barbara goes out with him n all his mates almost every nite n he admitted 2 her the otha day that he hated me n betty! th only reason we found this out was bcoz we accidently red a txt hed sent 2 her! we askd her y she didnt tel us n she sed bcoz she doesnt feel like she can tell us stuff nemor! wev told her that we feel she leaves us out n that she 4gets about us but she sed well its not my fault u neva *** out. our response was well your always with them neways n u dont include us! we dont no wat 2 do bcoz it causin arguments btween us al th time n she dusnt seem 2 understand that its her thats changed not us! ne ideas?!
2006-11-21 03:35:24 · 5 answers · asked by Newoliun 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
by the way the *** was ment 2 be come!
2006-11-21 03:36:24 · update #1
Ugh txt speak! My advice type properly! More people will answer your question. Im not trying to be rude I miss spell words & use txt lingo when texting but theres a time and place. lol
I am afraid thats life though friends drift apart until they are gone!
Its up to you how you deal with this but you should just get on with your life and accept that your old friend has a new bunch of friends and b.f (a life which doesnt include you). Let her get on with that.
But that doesnt mean you dont have to be friends any more you just wont see her as often. As long as she thinks of you as friends and still treats you as such then stand by her. In a few months time she could get dumped, she wont be able to hang out with her b.f friends and she could be alone.
Or she could stick with this guy for a long time. Dont abandon her but also dont spend your life waiting for her to be how she was. Friendships change with time.
2006-11-21 03:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Barbara obviously does not value yours and bettys friendship. I'd leave the whole thing cool off for a while. just you and Betty hang out, be nice to Barb just hang back a bit.
If she wants to meet up meet up but never ask her to meet up wit the 2 of you see how much she misses you.
It may end up that you'll be short a friend but that's life. Try not to mention Barbs BF if you are wit her. If she values your friendship in any way then she'd tell her BF were to stick it cause you are her friends and you're not going anywhere. Keep an eye on her I don't like the sound of her BF he seems controling. This could all blow up in her face and she might need you.
Good Luck ; )
2006-11-25 01:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Genipher17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is happening to me and my friends too. we told our friend that we really really miss her. it seems to have worked. she is making much more of an effort, and admitted she misses us too. when someone says they miss you, it tends to hit home. just explain to "barbara" that you miss her company and girl time. hehe. that should work. failing that, she will unfortunately come crawling back if and when her and her bf split... hope this helps you :-)
2006-11-21 03:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by guylian_chocolate_seashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's life. People change and grow apart that's normal life. Let her get on with it, you can't make her like you. Just get on with your own life and forget her.
2006-11-21 03:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens, friends meet other people, who may or may not like their friends
that means its probably time you made other friends...
life moves on.... go with the flow
2006-11-21 03:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋