I just found out yesterday that I am pregnant. I am so happy and excited, but yet I am terrified. I am 26 years old and my fiance (of 7 years) and I just seperated 2 months ago. He is the father of this child and we still live together. The reason we broke up was because I lied to him about a financial situation with my parents...and he now feels that it was as though it was because we didn't trust him - honestly, my parents were just embarassed and I was only respecting their privacy by not telling him... He wants to be in our child's life, but he is not sure if we are going to end up back together. I need advice on how to break the news to the family over thanksgiving dinner. What do I say when they ask me the status of our relationship...Please help :)
2006-11-21 03:28:08 · 11 answers · asked by ~Why~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Honesty is the best policy
2006-11-21 03:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me when I got pregnant with my second child. Only we did not live together.
However we now have a little boy and have been living together since I was 6 months pregnant and things are okay. My husband wasn't sure if we were going to end up back together or not and now we are talking about trying again. Things have a funny way of working out and I believe the bond between a man and women grows when there is a love of a child to share.
I pray things work out for you and your family just be completely honest with him and yourself and hopefully something will change.
Good Luck
2006-11-21 11:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Motherof2boys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just my thoughts on this...your in a broken relationship so maybe over thanksgiving diner would not be the best time to break this. I just personally would not do that in this situation. HOPEFULLY you will be able to work things out with the baby's father but that's don't always happen. In the end you can do what you feel is best. For us we did not break our news until i heard the heartbeat on ultrasound and we were getting comfortable in our own minds about the baby. This new news to you and you have other things going on i would sort out my feelings and relationship before adding this news to the family. OUR family started stressing us the day we told them. The wanted to know when we were getting a bigger place, what i would do about work, how we could support a 3rd baby exc. I'm so glad we waited to tell them they really made things worse.
2006-11-21 11:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell them the truth. And hopefully he will also turn around. From what you have said it does not seem like such a huge issue to breakup about since you have been together for 7 years and are engaged. If there is love you might slowly get back together. On a side note I can see where you were coming from by lying but it is always better to be honest mostly with the man you plan on spending the rest of your life with. If he is the one he should understand tough situations.
Good Luck
2006-11-21 11:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. It will only get worse if your not. As far as the relatonship. If it was meant to be you would'nt have been engaged fro 7 years. You would have already been married. And if your relationship ended over something like a lie. Then you know there is not much of a chance for the two of you. Just keep your family as close as possibble. They are the ones who are gonna get you through all of your new journey after the baby is born. Don't lie to them. Be completly honest.
2006-11-21 11:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by lisa s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your feelings and think about how things are going to be in the future for you and your child. My childs father is not a part of my life but we dated for a few months and then i found out i was pregnant after i ended it. Good Luck and just remember to be honest no matter how hard it is!!!
2006-11-21 11:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by CC 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you start with a lie then the lie will judt grow and grow until it is too big to handle. Just tell the truth and everything will come out just fine. Good Luck and Best of Wishes!
2006-11-21 12:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something like "we have a bit of an unexpected surprise...." and tell them. Your ex-fiancee seems to be overreacting a bit to your parents situation. You were just sparing their feelings...perfectly normal thing to do. Tell your parents that you and your fiancee are still not sure how things stand but that you are trying to make the best of the situation (especially now).
2006-11-21 11:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say thaat ur relationship is ok and that he is not sure that u going to end back togheter.Does he still love u ?(U need to think about that)If he does i think that things are going to back to normal.If he not u have to say to ur parents that ur relationship is not okey and i hope that ur going to be togheter and to be happy.PS:sorry if the answer is not good but i only have a 15 i do my best
2006-11-21 11:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I would wait to tell your family about your status until you are sure yourself. Ya'll may decide to work things out.
2006-11-21 11:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by ssstinagail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋