How can you express anger without losing your mind?

Answer 1

Do so vicariously through sarcasm.

Answer 2

take a deep breathe. If you have some time, write an email or a letter but don't send it. Sit on it for at least 24 hours. Then once you've calmed down, re read it and see if you still feel the same way. 9 times out of 10 you will have put yourself in the other person's shoes or calmed down enough to be rational. On the otherhand, this does not work for me, because I am stubborn, rereading something that I wrote the night before because I was pissed off at someone, just ignites it and I am angry all over again.
Either let it go or kick someone's ***.

Answer 3

I have a similar problem - I suppress until I can't take it any more, then I explode at the next person to cross me [ and usually they are confounded as to why I'm doing so ]. It's helpful for me to take proactive steps - asking myself WHY does this make me angry. What's really at stake here? Do I feel threatened? Am I afraid of not getting what I want, or losing something I already have? If it's a recurrent problem with one person, am I nursing a grudge? These questions can be very helpful in getting to your root causes. The answers will help provide a way to communicate your anger.
Check out this link for more strategies.


http://www.pe2000.com/anger_defuse.htm

Answer 4

The first objective is to assure you are calm and without personal bias before expressing anger. Anger should be explained and directed at the object or behavior and not the person.

Answer 5

Turn up the music, go someplace outside where no one will bug you, and exercise or rant to yourself. I wouldn't advise eating anything sugary or drinking something caffeinated bc this leads to more energy to direct at said object/person of anger. After excercising, if still angry wait for a little while for fatigue to set in, and call up someone who will soothe your nerves. Then if still pissed, go talk to the person but if possible remain sane and do not give too much of the evil eye or look as if you might just kill them for shits and giggles =/

Answer 6

Anger deep enough to infect the mind infects the body and its emotions.

Work the aggression out with your body through physical exercise.
Cry it out or scream in a pillow to let your emotions go.
Then sit down and let your mind do its job.

Answer 7

if you manifest anger you will only get more anger try to think of good see the light don't let anger be part of your life it s not hard if you see only good then good feeling will come too you every day say what you are thankful for see your self being happy and you will be happy and eventually there will be no anger in your life

Answer 8

Go wherever you feel comfortable to scream as loud as you possibly can. It releases all the tension, feels as good as a cry, and doesn't require thinking things through. That can be done afterward when you feel well enough to deal with whatever made you angry in the first place.

Answer 9

learn big word and bad words that are the same only the person you are telling and cussing out won't even know it until later it is really funny for example i am mad at someone and i want to call that person ahole i would call them a rectal anal lots of good words out there that mean the same only make you look and sound a lot smarter

Answer 10

Anger signals your body to prepare for a fight. This reaction is commonly classified as "fight or flight." When you get angry, adrenaline and other hormones are released into the bloodstream, then your blood pressure goes up, your heart beats faster, and you breathe faster.

Many people mistakenly believe that anger is always a bad emotion and that expressing anger is not okay. In reality, anger can be a normal response to everyday events. It is the right response to any situation that is a real threat. Anger can be a positive driving force behind our actions. Anger can also be a symptom of something else, depending on how often a person feels angry and how angry the person feels.

Hostility is being ready for a fight all the time. Hostile people are often stubborn, impatient, hotheaded, or have an “attitude.” They are frequently in fights or may say they feel like hitting something or someone. Hostility isolates you from other people.

Anger and constant hostility keep your blood pressure high and increase your chances of having another health problem, such as depression, heart attack, or a stroke.

Teens who say they often feel angry and hostile also more often feel anxious, stressed, sad, and fatigued. They have more problems with alcohol and drug abuse, smoking, and eating disorders than teens who do not have high levels of anger.

Review the Emergencies and Check Your Symptoms sections to determine if and when you need to see a health professional.
Think before you act. Take time to stop and cool down when you feel yourself becoming angry. Count to 10 or practice some other form of mental relaxation. When you have calmed down, you will be better able to deal with your conflict rationally.
Recognize feelings that often lead to angry outbursts. Do you have trouble dealing with feelings of sadness, confusion, or helplessness? Identify these feelings and develop positive ways to express them.

Come up with a reasonable explanation of why you are angry. If a person triggers your anger, suggest to yourself that perhaps the person is having a bad day.
Focus on the things in your life that make you happy.
Avoid situations that trigger your anger.
If you have trouble coping with heavy traffic, try to adjust your work schedule so that you do not have to travel in peak traffic hours.

Do errands at less-busy times if standing in line bothers you.
Take care of yourself.
Exercise regularly.
Eat a balanced diet. Do not skip meals.
Try to get 8 hours of sleep each night.
Limit your use of alcohol and do not use illegal drugs.
Evaluate your lifestyle choices. Anger and hostility may be a symptom of unhappy feelings or depression about your job, your relationship, or other aspects of your personal life.
Explore other resources that may be available through your job or your community. Contact your human resources department to see whether you have services available through an employee assistance program.Contact your local hospital, mental health facility, or health department to see what types of programs or support groups are available in your area.

Notice when you start to become angry and learn to express your feelings in a positive manner. Don't just ignore your anger until you “blow up.” Express anger in a healthy way:
Give yourself a “time-out.” Go someplace quiet to allow yourself time to calm down.
Try screaming or yelling in a private place, not at other people.
Go for a short walk or jog.
Talk about your feelings with a friend. Avoid gossiping about the person you are upset with.
Draw, paint, or listen to music to release the anger.
Write in a daily journal.
Develop assertive skills to replace your aggressive behavior. Use "I" statements, not "you" statements, to discuss your anger. Say "I don't feel valued when my needs are not being met," instead of "You make me mad when you are so inconsiderate."
Practice a relaxation technique such as yoga, meditation, or tai chi.
Listen to what the other person has to say. This can be difficult. Try to understand his or her point of view. Seek to understand, then to be understood.
Forgive and forget. Forgiving helps lower blood pressure and ease muscle tension so you can feel more relaxed.
Read books on anger and how to handle it.

Answer 11

Context, and perspective. By clearly outlining what it is that is making you angry it helps you "contain" it and the other person can start to see/justify it in their own ways.

I typically state what it appears to be and then ask them how it looks to them. This either spawns the argument or curtails them into my way of thinking.