do you ever feel burdened by the expectations of others?

Question

thanx smartie...i don't take things seriously, and i appriciate your answers

people are scum: you're right of course..you always are

thank you everyone...they are all great answers

Answer 1

ooooooooh, yeah!

but the biggest burdens are the ones I place on myself because I think others expect it of me.

Between what I do to meet my anticipated expectations piled on top of what others actually do expect, there's not much time for me to set goals of my own.

Answer 2

Expectations ruin us. One of the lessons life has taught me is to let go of expectations for myself and others. Now, I don't mean that I've given up striving for new and better things; I have put 'expectations' in perspective. It is our expectations of ourselves and others that drives many negative feelings such as regret, disappointment, and loathing when either someone else or yourself do not live up to the expectation. This is not a positive emotion, which damages the soul. You don't end up feeling good about yourself or the other person. When others put expectations on you and you are unable to live up to them, the same feelings are evoked. Think of the feeling of when expectations are met, usually these are just feelings of contentment, not joy or or over excitment; just a feeling of contentment that you/or another has set out to do something and did it. (Big deal - you wouldn't have set out to do it in the first place if you didn't think you could.) True happiness usually comes in the form of unexpectedness; when a loved oneor ourselves does something for us or accoplishes something without expectation - those are the times when we are happiest. (Ex:A couple has been dating for some time and both probably want to marry. Christmas comes and the woman is 'expecting' a ring. The man 'expects' that they will marry eventually, and he thinks it more appropriate to wait until Valentines day. At Christmas the woman gets upset because her 'expectation' wasn't fullfilled. And then a downward spiral of declining trust happens in the relationship because she 'expected' him to know her well enough that she wanted him to do it at Christmas. And he 'expected' her to be patient and know him well enough to 'expect' that it would happen eventually.) It is very difficult to not place expectations on others or ourselves, I still slip up all the time. But I am getting better, and now I see my relationships with my friends and family are no longer effected by feelings of disappointment or contentment, but have been replaced more often by joy and exctement. So yes, I have felt burdened by the expectations of others, I didn't like it and have changed my view point; which has systemicly chaged the view points of others around me, and my relationships are much better for it.

Answer 3

Expectations can be what another considers reasonable, due, or necessary. That stated we all have different backgrounds and goals, therefore, expect different things from others. It is better understand the other person and then you will have a clearer vision of their expectation. Thus by understanding anothers past or future, you can better gage the reason for their expectation and evaluate it accordingly.

Answer 4

No. People stopped having expectations of me long ago(lol). but even when they did, I didn't care cuz I knew that I wasn't here to live up to anyone's expectations but my own. I still feel that way.

That's not saying I don't understand or that I don't have empathy for people(especially the very young) who feel burdened by the expectations of others.

Answer 5

yes, you can't live up to everyone's expectations of you.
you can take advice, you can try to be a nice person and give a good impression; but at the end of the day you have to remember that
you can't please everyone, so, as long as you're satisfied with what you are doing and the person you are, then don't worry too much about it.

Answer 6

Everyone does at some point in their life.

Example

Being promoted requires you to meet your boss's expectations
Passing an exam requires you to meet the school's expectations

Trying to meet others expectations is healthy to some extent. (Although you should never become a slave to it) Some people expect more of us that we try to do better ourselves. Also, when other people, especially those who know us well expect a lot from us, it only means one think--they thing highly of us, and they know that we our capable of many things.

Answer 7

nope.

i don't have expectations from anyone.
not even from those whom i love.

similarly i don't get burdened by expectations of others.
i just don't get burdened by such nonsense.

i have a trick to handle this and how i do it.

send me a return postage paid written letter and i will tell the trick to you.
(lol !!!) - just kidding, okay, don't take this too seriously

have fun

Answer 8

Yes. Tremendously. But I would replace the word' burdened " by "inability to meet with " .

By accident or by design , we try to be good and friendly to people , around us. To many of them we owe something or the other , big or small. Thus we welcome opportunities to pay back our thanks .

Many times I find that others overestimate our capabilities and put moral pressure on me." I rely on you for this". " I have no one to go to" Particularly for people like me who cannot say "no" we take upon ourselves much too much and I feel guilty that I could not mmet with their expectation.

Answer 9

Yes, every day. I will never live up to the expectations of my husband or his family. I wish it didn't bother me but it does.

Answer 10

yes, everyone expects things from you and it gets stressful! but just keep your head high and keep on trucking.. don't let other people's opinions get you down.. just do the best you can, thats more than enough :)