This is the man I have been talking to on the phone and emailing on the internet (who i lived with for 5 years 10 years ago)- we broke up and now are both single and are in contact- he has been begging for a photo-says my voice is the same and I warned him i am older and heavier- well I sent a few photos of me and when he called this morning all he said was "oh and I got those photos of you"..and on with what he was doing at work. Thats it- no other comments- nothing- I am so hurt right now- he didn't even throw me a bone.........I am no raving beauty but I get asked out ......ughhhhhhhh
2006-11-21 02:43:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes he was my first love/high school sweetheart- and the problem is I have seen his photo- he looks exactly the same except for shorter hair.
2006-11-21 02:51:56 · update #1
Thanks guys- I guess i am overly sensitive about this cause I gained a huge amount of weight- and last spring starting losing it- i have lost 45 pounds and am still losing- walking 4-8 miles a day and struggling hard to get pretty again- so sending that photo was hard/hopeful-it just sucks to be ugly to someone you still love!
2006-11-21 02:59:09 · update #2
There's no question here. However, consider that his response or lack thereof may not be a reaction to the photos. Here's what I mean. Ten years ago you lived together. Then at some point you started communicating. You voice is the same so it took him back to that time. He was remembering and feeling ten years ago. He was a youth again. Sending him your photos took him to the present. Hey, we all change in ten years. He wanted you to look exactly the same. It reminded him that time has passed, people change, and it isn't ten years ago anymore. I'm saying it's may be more about his realization of time passing and less about how you look
2006-11-21 02:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it did not work out the first time..why even consider trying it again..
( if it was your first love..I could understand..you know the highschool sweethearts...but you lived with him for 5 years and it ended, so it must not of been meant to be )
You can find a new guy who will worship the ground you walk on, just throw the junk out, we dont always have to recycle...
Im sure he does not look like as young and as good as he did 10 years ago either...
2006-11-21 02:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. One of the most important things in a good relationship is trust. These pictures are from 3 years ago, why would that even bother you? You married her this is just some ex boyfriend, its trivial. Everyone has a past and memories good or bad come with it. Some jealousy is normal, many people find it flattering but intense and irrational jealousy is not very attractive...
2016-05-22 06:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're being honest and he's NOT. 9 outta 10 times, I've found that women look better than men after a time. But even at that, it doesnt matter. What matters is ya dont need to be living in the past. ENJOY your present life. And please leave him in the X category!
2006-11-21 02:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what do you expect the guy aparently still had the 10 years ago image if he really likes you for who you are and not what you are he will get over it if not he is still living in the past so dont let it bother you move on sweetheart life is too short and beautiful do dwell on small things like that ,
2006-11-21 02:56:38 · answer #5 · answered by zombie082978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up so long ago, why are you waiting for him to compliment you?
Sounds like you still have some feelings for him and unless you actually tell him, he's not going to know. So now you're mad at him because he didn't know he was supposed to compliment you?? Be mature about this. Be honest with him and stop playing games with yourself. If you want him in your life say so. If not, then don't whine when he doesn't say you're hot.
2006-11-21 02:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an inconsiderate jerk. He should have added in the "i see you are still beautiful" or something positive. I would leave this guy alone. You would never get out of this what you wanted or needed. Remember that he is an ex for a reason.
2006-11-21 02:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you are asking. Beauty is not skin deep. And, if all he wants is the outside beauty, then that says a lot about him doesn't it? If he can't accept you for who you are now, then let it go.
2006-11-21 02:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to sent you photos to of himself then say the same thing to him also!
2006-11-21 02:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't appreciate things like that. I do though.
@angel. Not all men darlin' just insensitive ones.
2006-11-21 02:50:34 · answer #10 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋