i dont have alot of friends, i feel kinda lonely. i do have a nice church i go to..but it seems like no one there really cares. or i feel like they dont. i have this one friend, shes 4 years older than. she kinda like my sister, so sometimes i go to her for things... shes the only friend i have like her, but she is off to college, and doesnt have alot of time for me anymore. i know she loves me and cares..but she doesnt reply to my emails..never. we have myspace, and i could tell she was replying to other peoples..like through commments. does anyone understand? i want her to notice me, talk to me, email me..i kinda miss her! she doesnt seem to notice when i just email her, its seems like i have to send rude letters, but i dont want to hurt her(again), how do i like, get her to..well, like me more and want to email me more??? like what kinda letter do i send or what do i say?? do yall understand?? dont say just leave her and find someone else, im not doind that! she's my big sis!!
2006-11-21 02:38:28 · 15 answers · asked by davis chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Awwww, I feel so bad for you. I think you send her a heartfelt email and tell her how you feel. Although I'm pretty sure she knows this but tell her the same things you told us. Tell her that you have no friends, you have no one to talk to, you confided in her and now she will not speak or respond to you, tell her you miss her and that she's like a big sister to you. Tell her how much she has made a difference in your life. I'm pretty sure this should get her attention. Don't be rude to her, that's probably the reason why she's distanced herself from you in the first place. My guess is that you've done it before. Tell her that you are not giving up on her or the friendship and keep trying your best to reach her. Be honest. Tell her exactly how you feel. Hopefully I was able to capture your feelings because it was obvious to me that you really care for her and really miss her. And if that's the case, she needs to know.
2006-11-21 03:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not leave her but leave her a bit space.
She is a good friend to you and even if she doesn't reply she is thinking of you. But she has a lot of things to do now and those replys are from people she probably didn't wrote to in a moth. Anyway I guess you have a lot of free time and you write those huge mails and you like one just like that. I would too but it is just not possible.
Mybe you shoul try find some school friend from class and (plus) maybe some other one that goes in church. That way you can write your friend a cheerfull letter and you'll be supprized of the speed from the reply.
"Seek and you shall find, ask and you shall be given, knock and the door will open"
Beside the normal meaning it means that maybe it is simpler to ask and to get something than to seek for the other person to notice what you want ect...
2006-11-21 11:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by SaSe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel! You have every right to feel like you miss her, but do not attack her for not giving you the attention you crave. You are comment chasing after this girl. You might want to re consider doing that. I know ALL about myspace and I know for a fact that things are NOT always as they seem. If it ends up that she still doesn't give you much attention, then you will have to accept it. When you care about someone...You don't try to control them in any way. You said that you "know she loves you and cares", so I suggest wait this out. It might not hurt to try to find some new friends. There is a whole big world out there, Sweetie. Go open it up!
2006-11-21 10:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa Dagger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't want to move on......Try giving her a call since other forms of communication aren't working and see what she's been into lately find what she most interested in or see if you could arrange a visit. I don't know why she is being the way she is but I move around alot and sometimes it's hard to stay in contact when your destracted by your surroundings. Find something to link you in, something you can both be interested in.
I really hope it goes well for you.....but there really is a world of people out there....it doesn't mean get rid of you big sis but have more options.....I have various friends I go to for different things, it's nice. I'm sure you could have lots of friends if you just tried alittle.
Good luck
2006-11-21 10:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by tsostler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years can be a big gap depending on your age. I'm guessing your just a teen so there can be a few disconnects. Sometimes people get anoyed or people just drift away. Sad but true. It just really sucks for you since your pool of friends seems to be tiny, and losing a friend really packs a punch. Your priority is to settle your lonelyness. I would suggest explaining to your pastor or someone you trust your sistuation of not having many peers you can communicate with and that you would like to get involved somehow. It would take balls to communicate that, but nothing in life is easy. I don't have an answer for your original question, but don't try to play the guilt trip game on your friend. That won't work at all. Just drop an occasional "Hi" and "I miss you!"
2006-11-21 10:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may be feeling a lot of pressure from you. Sometimes knowing that you are the only person who is meeting the friendship needs of another can make you a little overwhelmed. Make an effort to be friendly with some of the other people around you, and then mention to her that you are making some new friends, but that you still miss her. If she feels less pressured, she'll probably feel more comfortable chatting with you like old times!
2006-11-21 10:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might need some space, don't push her because if she is getting annoyed of you for one reason or another you would only be making it worse. Give it some time keep on doing what you have been doing so far and i am sure she will come around again. She went to college she might just want to experience college life a little bit differently. Wait a little bit and if it keeps on going on like that talk to her and ask her if you did anything wrong. but for now give her some space
2006-11-21 10:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by kissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do not feel disappointed with her. She could be very busy at this moment. If U think that she is avoiding U, then, apologise to her, if U think U had hurt her feelings. Send some strong persuasive words, ask for forgiveness, I belief she will reply to U this time.
2006-11-21 10:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun i am going though that at chruch as well also i cant leave my church cuz on my mom (long story) anyway find a chruch that is friend and kind also well understand ur needs i know it is hard to find one but there out there also ur friend i think u need to call her cell or here drom and if she is ohome for christmas found out her phone at home then give her a call that might work
2006-11-21 10:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look your going to have to make a choice she moving on if you want to be apart of her life to your going to have to give her room to grow to tell her if she emails you back you will only email her 3 times a week but dont be griping the whole email talk about happy things ask her about her stuff you know
2006-11-21 10:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by john1313nap 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋