What is her problem?

Question

I work in a library,and yesterday,I was helping an acquaintance/neighbor who is my age (early 40s) find a book,when she started going on and on about how great my husband is (we are separated),and how she is certain that he will not be 'on the market' for long,so I quietly said 'You can have him...and at a discount.'
She went and called him to tell him my comment,and now he's pissed off at me.
What is this woman's problem?I plan on ignoring her the next time I see her...do you think that is the best thing to do?

Answer 1

I liked the way you handled such an awkward situation. This acquaintance sounds like trouble, and ignoring her may be your only option. If she persists in bothering you or making more inquiries, tell her again that she can have him and at a discount. Other than to ask her why she's so interested, not much else you can do. Get a coworker to assist her the next time she visits the library, although it sounds like her only interest in the library is in torturing you.

Answer 2

It depends.......are you trying to work it out? Or are you filing for divorce? I'm guessing that you're not trying to work it out with the comment you made to her. I had a similar situation when my ex-husband and I seperated. Unfortunately I was too stupid to realize that she was interested in my husband and actually already sleeping with him. I felt sorry for her when she came to me a told me she was pregnant and the father wanted nothing to do with her and the baby. Not knowing my ex was the father and yes, we were still married! I found out in the delivery room by the nurse asking if she had decided what last name the baby was going to have! Live and learn I guess. If you aren't getting back together, than you need a seperation agreement-in writing, and then he can't call you and get mad at you. Most seperation agreements state that you have to leave the other alone. As far as dealing with her......that depends on your personality. If you are the quiet type who can't handle confrontation, than yes the best thing to do is to ignore her. Or if you want to have a little fun, tell her you have to give him to her at a discount, because she'll need all the money she has to support him when you get done with getting alimony/child support/equity/retirement/ and anything else you can get. That would probably shut them both up! But in a year or so, no matter what happens, you will be able to speak to each other without confrontation no matter who you are each with and what you're doing in your lives. I know it seems like that day will never come, but it does! I simply moved 65 miles away from him to make it happen faster!

Answer 3

I am not quite certain why most men tend to believe the ones they hardly know over the ones that they spend their lives with but seems to be this neighbor of yours wanted to say things to you to annoy you. The best thing you can do is ignore her cause the reaction she wants is exactly what she got. Turn the tables a little and make her understand that you are not bothered by her comments - as for your husband there is no need to be that pissed off unless she told him other things that did not happen - he needs to understand the way the woman mind works at times cause if she wants him she may want to do things to make him dislike you. Just leave things alone and dont have any conversations with her at all - no talk - no problem

Answer 4

It sounds to me like she needs to mind her own business....first off, if you are separated, then there was a problem, and even though I don't have details, she must think she knows something. And why is she calling your husband, and why should he be pissed if you are not together right now? My husband and I were apart last year for a while because he cheated on me and then left because he felt guilty, nobody really knew what happened and treated me like crap, and jumped to their own conclusions. Just don't worry about what her or anyone else has to say. You just do what is best for you and your situation. And as far as seeing her again, I would attach her name to a bunch of books that she would have to pay for, or log on to some porn at the library in her name and have her banned from there....Good luck to you....

Answer 5

She probably has/had a crush on him and you did not realize it. What an insensitive woman to come tell you that he won't be on the market for long, knowing you are obviously trying to get on with your life and coping with things. Also, going and telling your husband was probably 'scoring' with him according to her. And what's more irritating, he get's pissed off with you. Ignore the damn woman next time you see her. If she insists on making herself a pest and talks to you, be nice and exchange pleasantaries and move on by telling her you are falling behind on some things that you have to do. Repeat it constantly if you see her too often. She will get the message.

Answer 6

Maybe not the best way to deal with the problem but you should def. not let that woman come between the relationship you have with your husband. If she says anything to you just tell her how you felt about her comments. Or just completely leave the situation alone if you are wanting to avoid drama.

Answer 7

Maybe he put her up to it!!? It sound kind of strange to me that someone would engage in that type of conversation knowing you were seperated. Obviously they talk regulary if she felt comfortable telling him what you said.

I would bet my left arm that he asked her to do that. He was hoping that if you thought another woman was interested, you would go running back to him. I LOVED your comment. It put her in her place and his little plan backfired.

Don't give it much more thought! She isn't worth the effort.

Do you still love your husband? If so, I encourage you to try to work things out. I don't know your circumstances, so forgive me for speaking out of turn, but if there is any hope for your marriage, please give it the old college try!! It is hard, I know, but it is worth it. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger! This goes for individuals and married couples. I wish you the very best of luck! Again, I apologize for giving you advice you didn't ask for!

Answer 8

Wow. She's a real winner! It sounds like she is trying to make trouble for you. Do you think she maybe wants your husband? It appears that way. I would definitely avoid her and maybe even tell her off the next time you see her! She deserves a good tongue lashing and maybe next time she will keep out of your business!

Answer 9

First off that ho got her nerves for one thing why is she calling your husband in the first place ? and why is she all up in your face anyway at your job ? She sounds like a ho that has lost her mine.Girl for one thing if you and your husband are separated then their is a good reason why you left his behind ,if that fool want him and you don't let her go on and on as long as she don't put her hands on you .Ignore her dumb a _ _ !

Answer 10

Sounds like someone who is a sh*t stirer. There are people out there that just love to stir up problems and sit back and enjoy. I would not give her the time of day. Let her find who own book next time.