i am 5 ft 9 in and i wear a size 12 in jeans, he says to ask anyone that i need to go to a fat farm. he says if the ppl are trueful they wont lie please help me out here is anyone in the same situation?
2006-11-21 02:16:15 · 20 answers · asked by Mary r j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was with a girl who was constantly being harassed by her family for that very reason, and truth be known it wasn't the case at all. Who we are on the inside should dictate what we appear on the outside. Now people don't tend to focus on the spirit of a person, because that is where true love is, on the outside is where trouble occurs. I would have a heart to heart saying that it is very hurtful and cruel what he is doing to you. Leaving him at this point isn't the answer, so don't listen to people who like to take the easy way out.
2006-11-21 02:22:44 · answer #1 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many women out there who are going through the same thing as you. But guess what? You don't have to accept him talking about you need to go a fat farm. What the he**? You are a woman with feelings, you're human. Besides, a size 12 is nothing. Size 12 is sexy. You need to tell him off one good time and let him know he didn't marry an animal and let that be the last time he says anything about a farm, let alone "fat farm" Baby, you are tender and life is too short and sweet. You are here today, gone today.
2006-11-21 02:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 5 feet 9 and i *use to* wear size 17/18 in jeans and recently gain weight after pregnancy. The thing about it is before i lost count of admirers then and now it got worst i tend to avoid men so that i won't be hit on. Your husband is a jerk wish he was mine i would fat farm his ***. He will never know what he has until its gone. why dont you just kick him in the *** and move here to The Bahamas im sure you can find you a better life partner than that or even better beaches, men falling over you,and coconut rum :P
2006-11-21 02:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sizzla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have been my first wife. She was your height and always thought she needed to loose those inches.
But I never ever criticized her about it. It was part of what I loved about her.
When a man truly loves his wife the very last thing he will do is criticize her. If you have a problem with it then he may try to encourage you but never criticize.
Sounds like he needs a hand up side the head.
There are plenty of us guys out here that would love you just as you are. And with only your description to go by I would say you are perfect. Tell him to wake up to what he really has in you.
2006-11-21 02:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband sounds like a JERK.
His putting you down all the time is not good for your self asteem.
Sounds like he is looking for an excuse to cover up his own short-commings or as an excuse to cheat on you.
My wife and I have been married for 27 years. She is not a skinny 19 year old girl anymore, nor am I the muscled guy I was. She has put on a few pounds as have I. I still remember when she was the best thing on the beach in a bikini. I love her for who she is. You and your husband need to see a marriage counsilor.
Don't put up with it.
2006-11-21 02:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by captbob552 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ridiculous. That is a great size for a woman. I'm telling you, flesh is sexy, bone isn't. I mean, it depends on the woman's build. If you are at a reasonably healthy weight, then that is great. Don't worry about the size. However, whether or not you are at a reasonably healthy weight is beside the point. Your husband should always be uplifting and complimentary towards you regardless of your pant size.
2006-11-21 02:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by HJ8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being 5'9" tall and size 12 jeans does not sound fat to me. Maybe your hubby is a little jealous of your appearance. I used to be criticized snd I ignored it but I am now divorced so I do not have to listen to anymore put downs
2006-11-21 02:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you need to get real or i should say he does because he married you for better or worse and being a size 12 is not bad at all i am 5ft. 2in. and i am a size 14 and i know that's bad for my body but you know what my husband still loves me and when i got pregnant i got up to a size 18-20 but he still loved me so and i love him no matter what size he is but we do tell each other when we need to lose weight so.........ask him why he married you if he is not happy with you ........good luck and i hope that helps you
2006-11-21 02:25:10 · answer #8 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be truthful: Your husband is a jerk and you should tell him to go to a jerk farm.
Seriously -- your husband is a jerk. A size 12 in jeans is pretty normal. And if you want to lose weight, having him call you names is hardly going to help the situation.
2006-11-21 02:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my husband said something like that to me, I'd insist that he knock it off, and if it continued, we'd be in a marriage counselor's office pronto. That is hateful talk, and you deserve to be treated better. A size 12--come on! That sounds pretty good to me!
I'm going to guess that he's not exactly Brad Pitt, either...Am I right?
Whatever you do, do not let him convince you that you deserve this kind of crap. Because you don't.
2006-11-21 02:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by psych_donkey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋