The causes of divorce?

Answer 1

The bottom line comes down to selfishness.

Marriage is about being an unbreakable team. We've heard the cliche, there is no I in team. Yet it's true.

It could be her selfishness, thinking the Barbie stories are real, or men who love their wives should be mind readers.

It could be his selfishness, expecting her to follow a tyrant, or wanting a never-say-no porn star for a wife.

I believe the best one word answer is selfishness.

We see that all the time here. Folks ask if they should stay. You see answers like, "You deserve to be happy." "Life is too short to live in a bad marriage."

Frankly, those are very selfish answers and do little to encourage the unhappy husband or wife to look at their own behavior to see if they are a major contributor to the unhappiness.

It's easier to blame the other, to blame selection than it is to look at your own behavior.

And that too, is just plain selfishness.

Answer 2

Lack of love and respect. THe wife never was told the husband loved her and thinking he didnt care, she lost all respect for her husband. She became resentful jealous miserable and lost hope suspicious of him and even critical and contentuous. He decided she felt nothing for him, so he went into his cave and kept to himself. Eventually he decided that divorce would be the best thing. You see when those two ingredients are missing in a relationship the relationship goes into what is termed a crazy cycle. For it to improve a decided choice has to be made by one of the partners to change his or her attitude towards the other. THe problem is that the situation has often become so explosive that neither party wants to yield. Adam blames Eve; Eve blames the sname; and the poor snake does not have a leg to stand on. If one decides to make a difference the other within time begins to soften and eventually the crazy cycle stops. THe book Love and Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs expounds this theory in detail and I must tell you that his theory is spot on and really has pulled together many marriages, mine for one too. People give up too easily and for the wrong reasons. Often this is through complete ignorance. It leaves them bitter, unforgiving and unyielding and walking around with huge chips on their shoulders. My advise to anyone out there in this position is to buy this book and work through it even if you are divorced, because at least you will know what not to do the next time around and rather be accountable towards your spouse. Thank you for your question, it is a good one to have asked. I am giving you a star rating for it.

Answer 3

Lack of balance of power in the marriage. Not necessarily 50/50 straight down the line, but the kind where one partner keeps track of what the other one did and will only give back that much, and no more. Or decides he/she is the only one accountable or the one who needs to be accounted to. Forgetting that making a vow at a wedding is more than an excuse to get dressed up, get presents and have a huge party. Its a serious commitment to forsake all others, forever. Not even negotiable while drunk, ever.

Answer 4

Cheating, Lying, Mistrust

Answer 5

There are several reasons for divorce. It could be cheating, you dislike the person, you may be very different, abuse, or simply you don't get along and many other reasons, it just depends on your situation.

Answer 6

I think that abuse is a big cause. Women are now independent and do not take abuse from anyone. They can take care of themselves and do not have to depend on anyone.

Answer 7

Married the wrong person in the first place.

Answer 8

To become single again.

Answer 9

I would say the biggest ones are sex and money issues

Answer 10

lack of trust,over expectatons,letting others interferring in ur matters.