I have a partner who i have been with for neally 4years, i have a 5year old son and a 2year old son.
He has cheated on me before twice and i 4gave him both times that was while i was carrying our young one.
We are now trying for another baby, but on the weekend of 11th november i slepted with someone, then this weekend gone i slpet with him again but this time was different, we started by having a drink at his place then 1 of his mates came down we carried on drinking by now i was drunk, he took me to the bedroom and we had sex, then about 1 hour later a few more mates of his came around and he asked me if i would sleep with his mate i said no but he insited & his mate had sex with. that wasn't it they tied me to his bed & all five men started to have there turn with me i was crying i wanted to go home i was drunk, they didn't even wear protection, now i'm so scared and i really don't know what to do. i've been trying for a baby with my partner, so why did i do this? please help
2006-11-21 01:58:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Before you continue any relationship and please not a baby right now because you are very confused and you are now a victim of rape.. what you need to do right now is go to the police and report this rape I dont care how drunk you were if you at any time of this time in this party even after you say yes to one of them but at any time you say stop and NOOOOOOOO NO MEANS NO MORE THEY ******** RAPED YOU... AND YOU CAN REPORT THEIR ASSES TO THE POLICE. no matter what happends if they get prosecuted or not you have to report it because they are going to do it to someone else and a report will help bring them to justice... ok about your relationship with your man... I know what is like when your man cheats it turns your whole world around,it happend to me too. and I did the same thing you did I cheated on him too only that i started to sleep around constanly and at the end instead of hurting him.. I ended up hurting my self because then I felt down and low just like my husband.. I've learn so far that when it comes to your person and relationship the best thing to do when you feel your partner done you wrong is to leave go far away and if this man loves you he will come for you..instead of doing bad things like drinking and putting your self in bad situations go and do something good for you go to school take a course join a gym do things that are good for you.. because look what all this bad things you did are affecting you now... but from one lost soul to another Im telling you... you can still get up from this and take a lead of your life.. it's never too late,BUT PLEASE THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS GO TO THE POLICE... THIS MEN HAD NO RIGHTS AT ALL TO DO YOU LIKE THIS..
You are going to hear many idiots telling you that you cause this and you deserve this but you dont nobody does... You are a victim of rape... NO MEANS NO AND YOU SAID NO AND STOP AND THEY DIDN'T THE DESERVE TO GO TO JAIL...
You have kids and for those kids you are going to get up out of this,,I used my kids as my only hope and focus point to clean my self up and do the right thing for them.. love your children enough to straighten up and you will find love for your self too. good luck and PLEASE GO TO THE POLICE
2006-11-21 02:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were raped and you should contact the authorities immediately. It doesn't matter if you were drunk or you had sex with that guy before, you said NO and they didn't listen.
You need to tell your partner and you both need to get tested for STD's immediately (and pregnancy test for you). I think you should stop trying to have a baby ASAP and start taking responsibility for your actions. You put yourself in a bad position by cheating and drinking way too much - I'm not saying that you wouldn't have been raped if you didn't do that, but things might have been different if you'd have been in a sober state of mind. You already have 2 children and it sounds like this is a dangerous situation for them to be in. Maybe you should seek counseling.
2006-11-21 10:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to report these clowns. No means No. Call the police. Get yourself checked out and by no means let this ruin your life. You had poor judgement but that is no reason to accept rape. As for the cheating in your relationship counseling at some time can help you both deal with your issues. But right now, don't let these clowns get away with rape. If your man loves you, he'd be as mad as I am right now and want to see these guys behind bars. I don't know what the future holds for your relationship, but the law was broken and that needs to be addressed first.
2006-11-21 10:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if your current partner has cheated on you before, he WILL do it again. I would suggest leaving him.
As for the incident with the five men who tied you to the bed, if it was against your will, then you have been raped and you should contact the authorities immediately.
As for having more children, I wouldn't suggest you not go through with that until you have your own life straightened out. No sense in involving more kids to complicate the current situation.
Good luck!
2006-11-21 10:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by on2lifesjourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, let us start at the beginning.
1. You have terrible taste in men.
2. Being gang raped should not happen to anyone.
3. You are partly responsible. You got yourself in a situation that could easily get out of control, and it did.
My suggestion is that you quit cheating. Tell your partner if he cheats on you again you are leaving.
Hopefully you won't get pregnant from this episode. If you do, from one of the other men, I suggest you tell your partner and get ready to be a single mother of 3.
2006-11-21 10:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so serious, it's scary. You need LEGAL advice because you were totally taken advantage of and you are going to need some serious help. I'm sorry that this happen to you.
2006-11-21 10:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Bud C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As for the drunk sex, he raped you hon. Report him.
What is it with people not writing clearly...
2006-11-21 10:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what to say.. i pity you. you already have a partner but you still sleep with someone and worse is something terrible happen.. only prayers can help you.
and dont do it again..
2006-11-21 10:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They raped you...report them,
2006-11-21 10:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋