(even though s/he's a best friend's "partner / husband /wife" ...or that of a close relative... would you pursue things? (for some who think its me, get a life! please dont come on here if you're one of those people who make false assumptions (about me for example) this is just a simple question to see the general feel of things from other points of view!
2006-11-21 01:48:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i fell in love with my friends husband and he felt the same, we both left out partners for each other. he turned out to be a violent woman beating psychopath! i live with the guilt and hurt i caused to this day, it was 14 years ago, i left him 8 years ago, but still carry the consequences of my actions. so i would say, dont go there, make the best of what you have, i will regret it for the rest of my life.
2006-11-21 02:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by sharon f 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all no one should judge you on whatever decision you make, people shouldn't comment until they have walked a mile in your shoes. However in making your decision you should ask yourself who will suffer the fall out f you get together with this person, do either of you have children that will be affected, do you have a spouse or a partner. Will it be worth putting all people involved through the pain?
Secondly ask yourself how you would feel if you were in the position of the spouse / partner. You should also look to see if there is really a future for the two of you, not just satisfying a lustful desire.
If after all this you still feel that it is the best thing for both of you and for everyone else involved then go for it and best of luck.
2006-11-21 02:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jumble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been someone who has never wanted to regret not doing something....make sense?
I fell in love with my dads second cousin, when I was fifteen. We had never met before, he lives abroad and we went over there on holiday. Anyway, he was in his early twenties, and we had hundreds of family get togethers and we would always end up chatting all night and dancing together. I fell head over heels, and so did he, and neither of us told anyone. We would send letters practically every day once back home and the next summer we kissed for the first time. When I was eighteen, and we had been back lots more times, I heard his dad talking to my grandma about us getting married in a few years. I realised that some people must have known but I made them vow not to tell anyone else...it just felt taboo. He told me he loved me, we kissed lots and never anything more- he always respected me too much.
Then I went to university and I havent been back to see him since. I think I just changed but I know if I saw him again I would feel it all over again. I am now engaged to the most wonderful man but I guess you never forget your first love.
2006-11-21 02:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i do wonder why you went on the defencive after you asked this question, no worry's i anit gonna judge you, love is the greatest thing that anyone can ever have if i knew for sure that she felt the same way, all i can say is nature would take its course no matter what other partys were involved, love is the ultimate dream and people will do anything when that opportunity come's along
2006-11-21 02:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by rusty red 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it's a man he just wants some sex on the side, and is probably just faking the "in love" thing. Guys will always surprise you with how far they will go and how long they can put on an act in order to get you in bed.
2006-11-21 01:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it, lust is so powerful, we think we can't control it. The guilt is not even about the pain that you cause, but the self hatred you will have for years to come. Don't self harm stay away!!!
2006-11-21 05:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't persue the relationship. But I would have to tell the both of them, just in case it affected my relationship with them as friends/family.
2006-11-21 01:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by robdunf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but something's you should admire from a distance.
I am going to get so many thumbs down for this one
2006-11-21 01:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by danicolegirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do wonder why you are straight on the defensive though. If it was my best friends bloke then no I wouldnt even go there.
2006-11-21 01:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is the strongest force i know of. But make sure that you are strong enough to face the consequences, as love can destroy also, and because it is such a strong force, it can destroy very badly. Please be careful.
2006-11-21 01:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by stars 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋