My 26 yr old bf is going bald...?

Question

This is terrible bcuz I love him so much! His hair is noticibly thin on the top of his head and he blames it on dry skin but I know he's just trying to make himself feel better, since he has surplus hair on his body. He's so young and guys dont go bald at this age, which is why it is troubling me (I know that my friends laugh at him behind his back...)

He has no history of premature baldness in his family. His 70-year old dad has quite long hair in fact! Can anyone please advise me as to what steps he can take to make his hair grow back (please don't say Hair Transplant surgery because he can't afford that just yet.) Thanks

Answer 1

It's a fact of life for the random many.

Tell him to keep his hair short - it notices less.

I guess you'll have to love him for everything apart from his hair now.

Answer 2

First of all, ditch your friends. If they can't be happy for you, that you are with a man that loves and respects you and if they don't respect him- then they aren't friends at all. I am sorry but my friends would never ever laugh at something like that, people's appearances are not something acceptable to laugh about- particularly someone that you love.

Secondly, if you love him 'so much', then what is the problem. If he is saying it is dry skin, and you think it makes him feel better to say that then just leave it. He is probably sensitive about it, and you drawing attention to it shatters his self esteem.

Guys can go bald at any age. My friend has a partner who went bald at age 22. She adores him and it does not detract from his looks. There is no miracle cure for getting your hair back, just loving and respecting what you have.

Have you thought about how great it feels when someone pays you a compliment? Pay one to him, about the way he looks, build his self esteem and learn to love all of him.

Some of the worlds sexiest men had premature balding, and they just shaved off their hair and went on with their lives. It actually makes a man look more youthful and rugged.

I think you need to start seeing the man instead of seeing this 'problem'. The more you dwell on it, the more he notices and the more you hurt him. As for your friends, well I would start socialising with more mature less hateful human beings.
Baldness isn't something bad, it should be celebrated. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear about your difficult question. First off, it is in fact relatively normal for men to begin balding at an early age. A lot of it has to do with genetics, so somewhere along the line he got an unlucky gene. I myself was a little luckier, I didn't experience significant hair loss until my early 30's.

There are several different treatments; however, I only know of two which are proven to re-grow lost hair, those being Restoration Surgeries and Rogaine. Propecia is a good drug, but not yet clinically proven to re-grow hair, it is effective in preventing future hair loss though.

I tried Rogaine, but my scalp is to sensitive for that stuff and I couldn't picture myself applying it everyday for the rest of my life. Back in July I underwent a Bosley Hair Restoration Surgery and couldn't be happier with results. Since receiving the procedure, I have kept a blog called BattleAgainstBald.com, which documents the surgeries success. In addition to pictures and video of my experience, I also provide a wealth of information on hair loss, its causes and methods for correcting it. Have your boyfriend check it out. I think he will find it useful.

Best of Luck in Your Boy Friends Battle!
-Seth

Answer 4

My father-in-law is bald as an egg and yet my husband has VERY thick head of hair. I believe the gene is inherited through the mother's side, and his mother comes from American Indian and Irish stock, all of whom had a thick, curly head of hair. Look at your boyfriend's mother's male relatives, and you may get a good idea of how the hair in the family grows. On the personal level, I agree with the advocates of shaving the head, as there is nothing more pathetic than a bad combover. As long as a guy is in good shape he can combat the 'aging' look of baldness. The sexiest guys are those who don't give a second thought to thinning hair and a receding hairline but continue to pursue the joys of life no matter what.

My husband is constantly afraid of going bald, and his mother keeps telling him he is losing his hair (mainly because he has dyed it jet black and his scalp shows through at the natural parts in his hair.) I just don't see it, and figure this is a typical anxiety problem for men with bald fathers.

If your friends are laughing at him, then it is possible he is showing signs of being ashamed of going bald. My advice--he should flaunt what he's got and not worry about losing his hair beyond giving himself a new style. Picking on a guy because he's going bald is a cheap shot, and if he shows that it doesn't affect him or that he is not losing his mighty powers with his hair, then the furtive chatter should abate. If it doesn't then I'd seriously reconsider the maturity of your friends!

Answer 5

Embrace it, your boyfriend is getting a receding hairline. Going bald is not all genetics, it is also caused by stress. Yes, men DO go bald this young. They can start going bald younger too. I know a guy who lost every strand of hair by the time he was 19. My husband is very thin on top and has been losing it since he was 22. On the genetic side, baldness can be inherited from the mothers side. Your boyfriend has some inexpensive choices: he could start wearing a hat or he can shave his head. He'll feel better if he knows you still find him attractive anyway. Bald men are sexy!

Answer 6

"This is terrible..." Are you really such a shallow person as to only care how people look?

Men can start going bald in their teens. It's perfectly natural, and there is no cure or treatment, short of expensive surgical solutions. Rogaine and other drugs are expensive and must be taken for life, and in any case only restore hair that is dormant, not hair that has died back.

Stop worrying about his physical looks, and start looking at the person within - that's who you should care about.

If your 'friends' are laughing at him, drop them. They aren't friends and they are hateful shallow people. If you mean 'you' not your friends, you need an attitude adjustment. If you can't get past the hair loss, drop him - he'd be better off without you anyway.

Answer 7

I don't think you need to have a history of it in the family. And it can happen at any age. My dad went bald in his twenty's, and his dad who is 70, still has a very good head of hair.

Answer 8

You sound more bothered than him! It's a natural thing, my friend started to go bald at the age of 24!!!! Instead of worrying about what your frinds say, encourage him to face that he will be BALD, and stop looking at his baldie patch.
You'd better hope he doesn't read your questions if I was him, I'd get rid of the remaining hair and you!

Answer 9

Unfortunately alopecia (hair loss) may occur at any age and in either sex. The cause of alopecia is not truly known and although we tend to blame genetics the genetics of alopecia is also unknown. Hair transplants may always be done and there are 2 other less expensive and less invasive interventions. Finasteride (Propecia) is taken orally. Minoxidil (Rograine) is used topically. They both generally work well although they do require life long use but that may be better than surgery.

Answer 10

Dump the so called friends and learn to love the balding man instead.