Agree or disagree: "I fell out of love" is lame.?

Question

Particularly as an excuse to leave your marriage. If you disagree, please tell your age and why and whether you have ever married. Even people I know who said that regret it after a year or two as lame because they "fall out of love" with the next one as well.

Answer 1

28, just try to get along

:> peace
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Answer 2

I am 35, married 17 yrs. I agree people use that as an excuse. It's not they "fall out if love", it's just the relationship sometimes doesn't feel like it did when people fall in love. People should look back and see what what made them fall in love to begin with. If spouses would treat the other person the same through the years then I don't think ppl would "fall out of love".
And then again some ppl just use that as an excuse to get out of the marriage.I think "true love" is something hard to let go or just let it fall.

Answer 3

I would have to say that it is possible. But there are a few scenarios that could be at play:

1. The person never was in love to begin with and when the infactuation wore off, they were done. These folks generally have intimacy issues. It's deeper than that, but that is the main ingredient.

2. The second is the person who did love but ate so much BS they just lost whatever it was they once had. I have been here. I'm 37. I way really in love but I was so sick of the anger, rage and responsibility of the other person that by the time they were properly diagnosed, I was done. And I could not get it back even though I did try.

Answer 4

It is lame, I agree. I am 48, been married and divorced 3 times. Am in a long term relationship now. Falling out of love doesn't just happen, loss of strong feelings of love, caring, concern, happen over a period of time. "Falling out of love" is often used as an excuse to leave because they have someone else already. Been there.

Answer 5

I'm over 30 and have heard this excuse a few times in my life and never really found it's meaning.. As a matter of fact l have yet to "fall out of love" myself. Either you love someone or you don't it's that simple.. I think it just might be an almost sincere way of saying "l don't like the person you are and have been lying to you for a long time so goodbye"...

Answer 6

I think that excuse is lame!! I don't think they ever really were in love. When you really truly love someone with your heart and soul that feeling will never go away no matter what happens in your life. I think what happens when people say that statement is they get bored or they have moved on, this person isn't really what I want anymore, etc. So thinking that, were they even in LOVE? I don't think so. Love is fantastic and when you find it or it finds you it is amazing. It is being with your best friend, lover, partner forever just enjoying the ups and downs in life and creating new adventures.
30 married...=)

Answer 7

I don't believe you can fall out of love. I do believe you could have never really been in love. I also believe people marry without knowing the other 100% (Although nearly impossible) and Accepting that persons shortcomings. Key word is "Accepting" If you only tolerate someones shortcomings, then they will comeback to bite you in the butt, cause we as humans can only "Tolerate" something for so long untill it BLOWS up!.

Anyways, Falling out of love is 100% lame. My Marrige has Many ups and Many Downs, but those were downs that i accepted before we got married, so i refuse to complain about them and just deal with them in a loving manner the same way you would with your child. Do people "Fall out of love" with their kids? We live in a Fast Food Society and everything is about ME ME ME! NOW NOW NOW!! i'm 27

Answer 8

I'm 42 and have been married, happily for 16 years. If my husband said he was leaving me because he 'fell out of love with me' I'd be devastated but I'd accept it because I do actually believe you can fall out of love with someone as you take your very long journey through life. I also strongly believe that something good always comes out of something you think is bad so I'd remain positive that I'd find happiness again in my life, perhaps even a deeper love.

Answer 9

Agree, I'm 41 and effectively divorced for over 3 years now.

Love is something you do, a verb, not something you feel. Sure, being loved provides good feelings, but those feelings are NOT the love.

So, if you fell out of love, that probably means you stopped doing loving things.

So if you fell out of love with your spouse, unless you really seek to change your ways, you'll fall out of love with your next spouse, leaving a trail of destruction and broken hearts behind you.

Answer 10

Disagree. It is not lame.
I was in a serious relationship for 2 years. And after the first year, I fell out of love. I didn't want the best for him, I didn't respect him, it became about myself because I was not happy or in love with him but felt stuck in the relationship. He did not want to work with me on the issues that made me unhappy- leading to me falling out of love. I don't regret leaving my ex at all. He was not for me. We weren't compatible to build a life together... which takes alot of work/time/love/patience/care. The current man I'm with, I'm head over heels in love for, and sure, the thought that I might fall out of love with him has crossed my mind, but we act in a way that cherishes eachother and this relationship, I know in my heart I want the best for him, I want him to succeed, even if that means I'm not in the picture anymore, and I know this one has a hope of lasting because we talk through our problems, we never raise our voices or argue, we just communicate.
Falling out of love is not lame. Its happened to me.

Answer 11

The term "I fell out of love" is a weak excuse to get out of the situation. Most people that make statements such as this can't really pinpoint why they want to leave. A marriage is a relationship which takes time and effort to get it right. Its not for people who feel they "Fell out of Love."