why is forgiving others easy, but forgiving ourselves so difficult?

Question

thank you fiel..great answer, and so true

Answer 1

What a great question!! Rather tough too!!

First of all, we do not realise how difficult it is to forgive ourselves until we come to that bridge to cross....... that is when we genuinely understand that we have done a wrong. It is so painful that when I was young, this was the only kind of situation which used to make me weep profusely. I just took it for granted that repentance is the most hurtful feeling and never stopped to analyse why.

I am now going to put forward what I think could be the reason for this. When we know we have done a mistake or a wrong, our self pride gets badly bruised. We keep thinking.... how come I who am so clever and wise, could at all end up doing such a blunder? We keep looking for excuses to cover up but find it impossible to hide ourselves from our own selves. Our folly stares at our face bluntly and makes us feel so small, so little, so stupid! This hurts a lot. It hurts much more than when others find fault with us. This hurt is so severe that we are unable to forgive ourselves for the folly.

In forgiving others however, we feel superior and our self pride gets further boosted .... so it is easier for us to forgive others.

Our own people who are close to us come somewhere in between ..... not so easy to forgive but not as difficult either as it is to forgive our own selves.

So it finally boils down to that special thing in us called ego.

Looks like a plausible explanation to me ..... wonder what you think!

Answer 2

It relies upon on your expectation point for them and for your self. as an occasion, in case you have faith yet another is greater qualified than you, you will possibly probably be much less forgiving of them in that section. The opposite might additionally be genuine. In circumstances the place the two you and the different are on the comparable point, i think human beings might discover it greater stable to forgive themselves. in case you hit upon it to be a mistake, you will constantly ask your self why you probably did no longer are attentive to it became right into a mistake till now you probably did it. That self-doubt is greater debilitating than a mistake you had no administration over (the different man or woman's).

Answer 3

I don't know a lot about this forgiving stuff. I try not to get offended in the first place so to my way of thinking there's nothing to forgive and if someone takes issue with me then I'm happy enough to be contrite for their benefit if I think they need that. I'm responsible for my actions so I try not to engage in behavior that may require my being forgiven. If someone crossed the "line" into the unforgivable territory ( Murders, child abusers; rapists; those sorts of things. ) then in my mind that warrants death or life terms of imprisonment and that being the ultimate in unforgiven resolves itself in most of those instances. It all seems rather straight forward to me. Hey, this stuff is heavy! I hope You have a really nice Thanksgiving if Your an American; it's my first American Thanksgiving and I'm really pumped up about it!!! Take care!

Answer 4

This question is for those people only, who know how to forgive others. Those who can't forgive anybody, are those who forgive them self very easily.
To me it is easy to forgive others because I come up with reasons for their deed, that perhaps this might have been the reason or perhaps that might have been the reason but if you will ask about forgiving myself, I can't find any excuse or any reasoning for forgiving myself.

Answer 5

We are our own worst critics. Forgiving yourself is one of the hardest things to do. You think you've forgiven yourself and then later realize while thinking about it that you still beat yourself up over it. I would suggest meditation or therapy to help someone forgive themselves. To truly "let things go" must be one of the most soul-freeing things you can do. I'm still trying to forgive myself a little more each day for the regrets I have. Over time, forgiveness for one's self is possible but it takes awhile.

Answer 6

Because while forgiving others we have a satisfaction of giving but while forgiving ourselves we know the depth of our sin or matter commited.

Answer 7

Conscience, the "manassakshi", within us, always with us, is a strong supervisor, keeps reminding us not to repeat an offence a second time: we in our wisdom, translate that reminder everytime, to mean "no forgiving": but, learn to forgive yourself, and get on with life, that is wisdom!

Answer 8

Interesting that you think that way. It's the other way around for me. I can easily forgive myself for my mistakes. Forgiving others is much more difficult.

Answer 9

dear,it just is not the matter of easy or difficult,
the thing is u have 2 ways to go-let say-u dont forgive,what then can u do?think about it, think negative about it,what then.the more negative u think for others,the more u become,others dont lose anything,think as if u hav come in this world with some points,1.think wel for all,or dont think for others.but just dont think negative.u wil lose points,catch some bonus lik here we do,by thinking gud 4all!!!

Answer 10

to me both is hard
i have a hard time forgving a lot of things well actuallly the ones that is big
but we can hate ourselves but we will always be ourselves no matter what whith friends it is different if one doesnt say sorry then u wont be friends ever again.