Did anyone else feel depressed, tearful and miserable at 37 weeks pregnant?

Question

I'm 37 weeks 4 days pregnant and basically a tearful depressed mess at the moment!

Went for an ante natal check up today and burst out crying in front of the midwife, told her I couldn't "do" pregnancy anymore, I'm so tired, achey, feel so rough and baby shows no signs of arriving. Due date is 8th December.

I asked her what the procedure would be if I went overdue and she said that apart from checks they wouldn't think about inducing me until 24th December! (ie Xmas in hospital!)

I just broke down and said I couldn't do another 5 weeks and I feel so miserable.

I feel awful as this is supposed to be the most wonderful time a of a woman's life and yet I just feel sick, fat, exhausted, achey and demoralised. I've been preparing for a lovely big family Christmas to cheer me up and now the news that I might spend it in a hospital bed away from my family is just too disappointing.

I can't eat without feeling sick/getting heartburn, can't sleep! Can't cope!

Answer 1

I have been there, and I have done that. It is very normal to feel the way you do. Your baby will be here before you know it. You're due in 2.5 weeks. You could go anytime now. It will get better. Have you tried taking Tylenol PM in order to get some rest? My doc told me that was fine to take at the end of pregnancy. Warm baths helped a lot too. Good luck! I know it's hard, but you'll be fine! Chin up...

Answer 2

Anyone pregnant women has been where you are right now! The closer you get to your due date you feel like the baby is never coming out. You can't sleep for anything and you're completely miserable, i know I've been through it myself and am now in my second pregnancy. I already feel like i couldn't get any bigger and am only half way through. What helped me was walking the more i walked the faster my body got ready for the labor to begin. Walk as much as you can and exercise if you feel up to it. This will help you feel better and better prepare your body. I walked for two hours at the mall the day after Thanksgiving and went into labor the next night. Don't worry your not the only one that feels this way when pregnant but the time will come so don't stress it only makes it worse. And if for some reason you are in the hospital on Christmas i'm sure your entire family will be there too!!!

Answer 3

I really sympathise and it could be an indication that you are expecting a lovely little girl. I know it is only supposed to be an old wives tale but isn't it true tho that girls sometimes make you feel really terrible. Come to think of it, my daughter is 12 now and the same thing applies sometimes!

I think the idea of having a child at Christmas is absolutely like the best thing on the entire planet! O.K. so you miss out on a few things but it's only one out of many and you may find some real nice people in the hospital. I live in England and the hospital where my first was born has now been knocked down and a Council Housing Estate built. Just thought I'd mention that.

Mt first ended up in a nightmare because of complications. I know these won't apply to you so chill. We got thru it fine and I hope and pray that you will too.

Nature is a wonderful thing and the pain and discomfort you go thru I think is to strengthen the bond between u and ur child. It's pretty cool really.

I have to say, if I was going thru what you are I would be really worried a) because it would mean I was pregnant and b) because I am a man.

The guys go thru it too tho and I hope you have a supportive partner or family who will help you and love u in the way I know that I did.

Hope I cheered u up a bit. God Bless u & ur child

P.S. thought of a name yet? How about the name of a flower for a girl or Nicholas (If it's a boy at Christmas).

x

Answer 4

My husband used to come home towards the end of my first pregnancy and I would be crying over nothing. I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my second child at the moment and burst into tears the other day while watching Oprah, (it wasn't even a sad Oprah, it was a makeover show!) Blame it on the hormones!!

I'm due the week after Christmas and I too am, worried that I might end up in hospital over Christmas, but if it's time, it'll happen regardless of when we want it to! I'm sure you'll have lots of visitors even if you are in there over Christmas. My Mum was in hospital with me over Christmas as my birthday is December 23rd. She said it was very special because there were hardly any other people in there and the mothers that were in there got lots of attention and a special Christmas dinner.

I know it feels like you're baby is never going to be born but it will happen and you'll forget how sick you feel. Just think it's just this one year and next year you'll have a baby crawling or walking around the Christmas tree!!

Answer 5

Hi Ladymoon. I sympathise with you. Yes, I think most women who have gone through pregnancy will tell you that the last eight weeks are the worst. The time seems to pass oh, so slowly when you're wishing it away. But, just think, when the baby arrives, and you hold that warm little bundle in your arms, how precious your time will be from that moment on.

As for the Christmas arrangements, busy yourself with that, look forward to it and get everything out of the way in the next few weeks, then you will find that time will pass more smoothly and you don't have time to worry about when the birth will be. Then..... guess what? You'll have your little bundle when you're supposed to have it, and you'll be ready to accept all those doting guests at Christmas, and all your depression will be gone!

Just a point here - if you go into hospital on 24th December, I think you'll find that they'll be only too happy to let you out for Christmas Day and somehow, I just know that other family members will rally round and cook your prepared Christmas Lunch for you.

I don't allow e-mails, but if your e-mail addy is there, I will contact you and perhaps we can chat and see how you're going. Call me an interfering old bat if you like, but I hate to see people so unhappy at this time of year, or indeed, at such a promising time of their life. I hope you'll accept that.

In the meantime, chin up, and get those Christmas Arrangements finalised ahead of time. Bless you.

Answer 6

37 Weeks Pregnant And Depressed

Answer 7

I didn't make it to 37 weeks (had to be induced at 36.6 weeks). Still, it didn't take very much for me to burst into tears my last trimester. Hormones will do that to you.

I had gained 50 pounds, developed pre-eclampsia, which brought on high blood pressure and a 2 week hospital stay. I was miserable and scared and frustrated, but got through it. You'll make it through it too.

Just be good to yourself. This time is such an emotional roller coaster, and the one time you're "allowed" to be moody, weepy, and snappish. But it does go by quickly! I know when you're living it, it doesn't seem like it goes by fast enough, but keep your eye on the prize. In just a few weeks, you will be holding your darling baby in your arms. What a wonderful Christmas gift!

You are going to be just fine. Don't get caught up in what you "should" be feeling and let your pregnancy be YOUR pregnancy. Weep, yell, take a long shower, treat yourself to a little self-indulgence. You've made it this far, and by the time the new year rolls around, all the uncomfortable, disappointing frustration will be forgotten in the love and beauty of your new baby.

Congratulations!

Answer 8

Hi ladymoonlight

You are absolutely 100% normal!! Don't worry about it - lots of tears seem to be par for the course at this stage (and lots of other stages too!!)

I'm also 37 weeks pg - due on 11th December. Luckily or unluckily I've got gestational diabetes and because of this, they won't let me go overdue so I'll be induced on my due date. I do feel relieved that there's a definite end date in sight.

I've put on loads of weight and feel I can barely move about - it is depressing. Constant heartburn and other physical discomforts make it a very uncomfortable time. Don't you just feel like punching those smug serene looking preganant models in the books and magazines?!!

I tried for this baby for years and years and years. Finally after lots of IVF and egg donation from my sister, I'm nearly a mummy at last! Imagine how guilty I feel for not enjoying every single minute of it!!

In a few weeks all this will be behind us and we'll be enjoying our new babies. Then the REAL trouble starts!

Wish I could give you a hug!

Suzie xx

Answer 9

First of all I am so sorry, but yes the emotional run wild. I am 35 weeks and I am cry of stupid stuff and I have a 2 year old that I am trying to be strong for, I guess if if wasn't for him I would just stay in bed and bawl all day. The time will come and you will forget about it all, I am due at Christmas and I want to have the baby before that too. It is so hard getting Christmas and feeling this way. But hang in there and if you need to talk please contact me.

Answer 10

Oh, poor you! Don't worry, I felt exactly the same at this stage. It's no fun not being able to sleep, getting heartburn and not being able to even breathe properly, I know it's a wonderful time but it's bloody hard work and your hormones are all over the place!. I was looking forward to the baby coming but dreaded being overdue, as it turned out he came bang on time, so try and have faith your baby will arrive and you won't have to spend christmas in hospital, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!