I'm still in love with my exwife. I believe she loves me but not the same way any more.I help her financially and people say she is using me,but I dont care,I still love her.How do I tell her how I feel w/o losing her?
2006-11-21 00:18:33 · 14 answers · asked by MMUUDDD!!!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you cant, its over, move on
2006-11-21 00:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by mcs7942 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her. The thing is, you've already lost her; you're divorced. I don't know how long you were married before you divorced, but there had to be a reason why. Think about that, and if you want to continue to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way.
Get over her and find someone who LOVES YOU!
2006-11-21 00:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not married anymore, so you really have nothing to "lose" by talking to her. There's not really enough info. to say whether she's using you. ( My ex "helps me financially" too - it's called court-ordered support & it's not from the goodness of his heart, lol)
At this point, you've got nothing to lose by being honest. Really consider how she treats you, and don't just hear the parts you want to hear. Talk to your family, or a friend who knows both of you and get their opinion. They can be more objective than you can.
Then if there's nothing, move on and find someone else who cares as much as you do.
2006-11-21 00:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She already knows you still love her, that is why she is so good at manipulating you.
If there are no kids involved, let her solve her own financial problems. You can try telling her how you feel and asking her how she feels, but, really, you're divorced. Don't you already know how she feels?
I feel for you, but you need to accept the divorce and get away from this user.
2006-11-21 00:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait a month or so, untill you two are more distantly equainted, then come back into her life by calling her up on the phone to see how she was doing. If she calls you for money tell her that you love her and if she loves you then she can come back to you, but if not then she needs to learn how to survive on her own. You can't always be there for her.
2006-11-21 00:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by geminiblonde123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about it....What do you have to lose? She isn't involved with you. You two are not together. I don't think you should be helping her. I think you should give her a choice...you can either be with me and get all the benefits for being with me or you can leave forever and not bother me for anything.
The odds are she is using you. Ask your buddies....They would not be giving their ex-wife anything unless they were benefiting themselves from it. Is she at least sleeping with you? Probably not.
Don't tell her that you don't care that she's using you b/c she will only use you more.
2006-11-21 00:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems that you have already lost her, she is your ex-wife. If you are still in love with her I would think about what would be different this time if you did get her back... then tell her how you feel... you can't lose her again... you don't have her.
2006-11-21 00:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by katiea4172002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care about her using you, then stop helping her financially. Then she will run back to you in no time because that's where the money is.
2006-11-21 00:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her directly. I have never known love to turn a person off.
I knoiw what is like to love someone, who doesn't love you in the way that you want. Hang in there.
2006-11-21 00:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and talk to her ....eventually the convseration will lead deep. Just ask her or let her know that you want to talk to her for some personal things.. then there you will tell her.
2006-11-21 00:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get to know other women. If your ex doesn't come back within a reasonable amount of time, move on.
2006-11-21 00:23:16 · answer #11 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋