Has a child ever ask you about the birds and the bees??? What did you say?? Did u turn red??

Question

My nephew asked me .... all I said was "If you never ask me that question again ... I'll buy you a video game" (he's 8) ... please let me know what is best to say .... I don't think I gave the best answer!!!

Answer 1

LOL, think you did the right thing there. The child really needs to talk to his parents about it.

I've been asked before by a niece, and I told her that she needed to talk to her mom. I said "Well, I don't know, I have never had a baby, but your mom had you...why don't you ask her?".

Answer 2

You just taught your nephew he can't come to you for straight talk and good information about sex.

First of all you need to talk to his parents, let them know he was asking about it. That way they can decide what to do and make sure he isn't getting some bad info on the playground. And you can also find out how much they want him to know at this age.

Perhaps then you should go to your nephew and say you know the other day you asked me about........... I'm sorry I gave you a dumb answer I just was suprised and caught off guard. Then say you know at any time you can talk to me about this. Your parents and I want to make sure you have the right answers about this. Sometimes kids talk about these things on the playground or whatever and don't get the right information. So anytime you have a question you can come to me.

Then if he asks you questions answer them openly and honestly. He may not even be asking for as much detail as you think. One time my son asked me a question about this subject and I went into great detail only to find out that wasn't what he was REALLY asking.

I have 4 kids, they need to know different things at different times. We tried to tell them the facts of life as they could understand it at the age they could understand. That way it didn't come as one big 'shock'. It also let them know that we were open to discussing this subject and they could come to us with questions at any time.

Don't ever lie to them. Don't give them the whole stork line. Do make sure when they are old enough they know the facts to protect themselves against getting a girl pregnant or getting an STD. Love your nephew enough to give him the information he needs so he doesn't become a statistic.

There are a lot of good books on the subject. You might check the library out.

Answer 3

Oh, I remember when my daughter asked me that - she was 5... And I said "honey, mummy will buy you a book that answers all your questions". I went to the library, and really found a book for kids - lots of images with a baby in mum's belly. I gave her that book, I read to her several phrases - she didn't understand much, but was fascinated about the picture of the baby inside his mother. And I said "honey, you have to learn reading if you want to understand everything that's in this book" - yes, yes, I was preparing the ground for school... Well, the book was a success. She held it in her arms almost every night and never asked me again... till she was 15 :) (by then, I was prepared)

But let me tell you this: you are never prepared for these questions - fortunately, I have a "special" way of dealing with them. Never say no, never refuse. Ask a question (why are yu asking that, what do YOU think etc.) to buy some time :) and maybe find the "root" of the question.

Never blush. It's normal for them to ask that. Sincerely, I would be concerned if they didn't...

Answer 4

My olderst is 3, so I haven't had the real questions yet. He did ask me if I had a penis though. Now he'll sings a song that he made up that goes someting like, "Daddy has a penis. I have a penis. Mommy doesn't have a penis!" I just couldn't tell him that Momma has the v-word, so I called it a hoo-hoo. Yes, he'll need therpay.

I love your answer though. LOL! Sometimes, the best answer is not the most PC one. He'll look back on your answer one day and think you were cool.

If my boys ask about the birds and bees, I will so send them to their dad.

Answer 5

What a great uncle you are. Kids are funny some times. They usual ask someone other then their parents that question as they feel more safe doing it with someone they trust besides their parents. One of my grandsons approached me on the subject and I was glad to explain life to him. Think he was 12 or 13 at the time. At the time I was surprised that my son hadn't sat down and talked it over with him and when I asked him why he hadn't he said he didn't know how to go about explaining it.
You certainly didn't help him out one bit and should have covered the subject with him. Kid needed help and you let him down.

Answer 6

My stepson asked me when he was 7, (he's 15 now), I answered him with a combination of clinical info and safety warnings, and I talked about feelings a lot. Whatever I said, he decided not to have sex till college!

Answer 7

I think you did fine..it should be mom or dad.
But if your ever backed in a corner..especially by one that young,a good idea is just to say it's a special hug between a mom and a dad.Gets you off the hook and satisfies the curiosity for a while.

Answer 8

Nope. We figured in the event that they have been sufficiently old to ask the questions, they have been sufficiently old to be attentive to the solutions. I definitely have by no skill equated bill Murray's mouth with... Geez Buk.. i prefer greater espresso now. {shaking head and ...questioning...}

Answer 9

I told my 5 yr old nephew is was too young to know.

Answer 10

Luckily I haven't encountered that problem yet, so I have no idea what to tell you. I'll probably do the same thing you did when my daughter asks me.