Her boyfriend told her she could not be friends with me anymore. Her & I have grown up together. The two of them have only been together for 6 months. She had the never to call me to tell me she can't be my friend or she will lose him. Then 30 mins. later she called back to say she would not do that to me. The point is she would make her boyfriend belive she was no longer my friend instead of stucking up for our friendship. Should I be mad at her & ignore her calls or be a hidden friend from her man?
2006-11-20 23:56:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Being drunk gives him NO reason for slapping you. He's using alcohol as an excuse to hurt you! The next time you get drunk, punch him in the nose and think nothing of it, cos hey, you're drunk, how would you suppose to know, right? Do you have a brother, uncle or dad who can teach him a lesson? It sounds like that guy is a piece of sh*t to me! Set him straight! If your friend get furious of you for doing that, tell her to listen to her heart the next time he tells her what or what not to do. Tell her that a scumbag like that shouldn't come between your friendship and tell her to consider truthfully on whose side she's on. If she still wants to be with him, cut all ties with her from then onwards, because obviously your years of friendship means nothing to her, compared to that lil shi*t, so she means nothing to you too. If he will hit a girl, he will definately hurt her too, and time will only tell, she'll be crying back to you.
2006-11-21 01:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't you ever watch Lifetime movies? Now I am sort of joking but not. They are realistic when they depict an abuser getting worse and worse over time. Your dad is 100% correct. My question is WHY do you keep talking to these dysfunctional people who think it's ok to be a wife-beater but still a fragile suicidal case. Change the phone number and don't talk to them anymore. Get a restraining order again Daniel. And get ready to serve him with divorce papers. You said it yourself - you are feeling better. And you will continue to feel better as you put time and space between you and Daniel. He is not a good husband nor father; do you really want to have a kid with this mess? He is at best a sociopath who beats women and maybe kids; at worst he is psychotic and needs to have a civil commitment so a psychiatrist can figure out what is really wrong with him stabbing himself, crying, carrying on like a crazy person. Consider seeing a counselor or therapist as you have been through major drama and a counselor can help you decide what your short and long term goals should be. Hugs, and all my best wishes. DO NOT GO BACK, NO MATTER WHAT! TRUST!
2016-03-29 04:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This boyfriend is controlling and that means he is physically and verbally abusive. When he slapped you you should have called the police and pressed assault charges not waited on your scared friend to stand up for you. What did you expect her to do fight him? Break up with him? She's at a weak stage already and will continue to be emotionally dependent on him until she finds the strength to end the relationship and move on. Be a friend whether it's undercover or otherwise. She will need you there and eventually with your help she can break free. Turn your back on her and it could cause her more harm and you will be giving him that much more power over her and you.
2006-11-21 00:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's got a problem. If a guy is physically violent and demands that his girlfriend get rid of certain friends ... then the girlfriend shouldn't want him any more and is better off without him. I wouldn't abandon my friend if I were you, but I wouldn't aid her in staying in a bad relationship by being a hidden friend. She is less likely to get out of her dangerous relationship if you do.
I'd have a heart to heart with her. Tell her that you love her and value your friendship and hope that she does to. Tell her that you'll always be there waiting for her as her friend. And as her friend you won't do anything that helps her stay in a relationship that she shouldn't be happy with. Then the ball is in her court.
Good luck to you and your friend.
2006-11-21 00:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answer your living in a soap opera, drama, drama, drama.....Since he is obviously a mean drunk, it won't be long before he starts slapping her around....sounds controlling, manipulative, and possessive, that adds up to your friend becoming a statistic....he will either hit her and someone will see the marks he leaves, or she will start making excuses, or he'll kill her one day, just like all the other women who have been by abusive boyfriends, the numbers are endless, thousands of them, and frankly, as long as she is with him, it would be in your best interest to stay away. If ya'll are under 18, I would tell her folks, unless all ya'll were drunk and you can't.
2006-11-21 00:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you should be mad very mad. I wouldn't ignore her calls though. She may really need one day. I wouldn't call her or hang out but if she needs you be there, if just to talk. She's going to need someone. Because let me tell you this guy is going to ruin her life.
2006-11-21 00:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Neev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is an abused woman. Mad at her you bet. Hidden friends are a waste of time.
2006-11-21 00:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by oilfieldinsultant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you have a delimma. I would not call her a friend if she allowed this happen. You should rethink your relationship with her and remember, boyfriends are like busses, another will be along in 20 minutes.
2006-11-20 23:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by beeotch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man that's crazy u should totally tell her out and go find new and better friends. Ones who will walk proudly everywhere with u and not let her b/f rule her life. She is a shellfish individual and deserves what she has with her b/f, however she does not deserve ur friendship. You should have better so don't hide let it all out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-21 00:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry with your friend, because she wasn't being loyal to you! She wasn't being a good friend anyway and she chose her boyfriend over you! Her boyfriend can't pick and choose her friends and she should've kicked him to the curb! You need to let her go and move on because you deserve better! Good luck and I hope my advice helps!
2006-11-21 03:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋