We've been divorced for 5 yrs, we are still friends. He lives 4 houses down from my parents. He is at their house almost every day or every other day. When holidays come around my parents feel compelled to invite him. I guess that's fine except if I want to bring by current bf or maybe someone new. I feel sorry for him because his family is in another state so he doesn't see them much. He's sort of adopted my family. My parents arn't real fond of my current bf because of our ups and downs over the past few yrs. So they would like it if I got back w/my ex, because we do have a son together. But it gets to be a hassle everytime the holidays come along. Don't want to hurt feelings.
2006-11-20 23:44:13 · 11 answers · asked by jeep 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell your current that it is tradition to do your ex during the holidays
2006-11-21 00:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if your ex knew how you felt he would understand where you are coming from. He really needs to move on after all you have been divorced 5 years. You need to be open and honest with your parents about how you feel and ask them not to have your ex at there home all the time. Tell them you have no intentions of getting back with him and them holding on to that hope is making things very uncomfortable for you and your new partner. Whether they accept your new partner or not is their business but your life is yours. Tell them unless they can accept your choices in life, they will have no further part in it. I can understand that you don't want to upset your parents but they also have to realize you are not a baby anymore and you want to do what you feel makes you happy. I understand it would be hard for your ex if he has no family close by, but the bottom line is they are your family not his and he has to learn to accept that. Him hanging out with your parents all the time is not healthy for him, he also needs his space to learn to let go. Good luck l know it must be a hard decision for you to make, but l'm sure things will work out for you in the end.
2006-11-21 00:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be known that you have no intentions of getting back with your ex, you expect others to treat your b/f with respect and if they cannot to do and start in with you about your ex, then they don't need to be planning on seeing you during the holidays. They need to mind their own buisness and stay out of your life and if you want their thoughts and opinions, you will ask for them.
Sometimes people gotta be real blunt and tell it like it is.
2006-11-20 23:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is hard. It is good for your son to be able to have both his parents around for the Holidays, but you need to tell your family that YOU are blood, not your ex. It is fine if he/she is around for the Holidays, but need to respect your new relationships as well and there is no chance for you and your ex getting back together.
2006-11-20 23:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by staydee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are still attached to him and he to them THATS fine, but when you are going to visit your parents he should NOT be there and that includes holidays. That must be soo awkward for your current boyfriend. There is a time and place for everything and your ex's place is NOT with your family when you are there. He needs to spend holidays with friends, his son or hell go VISIT his folks for the holidays...isnt that what people do for holidays -travel?
2006-11-20 23:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be a great ideal to start having Thanksgiving dinner at your home or at your boyfriends. By doing this you're not hurting anyone's feelings but going on with your life.
2006-11-21 00:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you and your ex have remained friends. But it is time for your family to let go.
2006-11-21 00:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After all is said and done, IT IS your life! It's not your parents, or your exes life...it's YOURS! Go to the family get together , with whomever you please, and have a good time! Best of Luck to you!
2006-11-20 23:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your going to have to tell your parents you are bringing some one else see what they say then tell your X of your planes may be he will say he an,t coming ! he,s your X sounds like ever one is for getting that part .talk to ever one ..your son really don,t need it it.s hard enough on kids don.t you to make it worse..
2006-11-20 23:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by vickie_45601 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virtually all divorcees continue to have sex, at varying regularities.
Everyone has sex during the holidays.
Loosen Up !!
2006-11-20 23:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by Pat R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋