2006-11-20 23:34:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's trying to find a way to motivate your daughter by removing what she values which is her visits with you or he believes her visits with you are a bad influence and her grades are dropping. You have parental rights that you can enforce but you must do it in such a way that places your daughter's interests above your own. If she can't see you then perhaps you can call each other and you can try to help her with her homework. The seperation is obviously difficult on her. Send her cards and things that you think would be helpful to her in school so that she gets the silent message from you that you believe her education is important. It can be simple things like pens, paper, pencils, cute erasers or pencil supports, agenda books, homework calendars, index cards with a note that they are for vocabulary & spelling. Also send her reaffirming cards. Since she isn't with you ; you have to do things to let her know you are thinking of her always. Saying you are isn't enough. Send perfume, lip gloss, deoderant. Don't wait for her to ask or tell you what she needs. Send her a charm and a note that says "everytime you wear this ; remember that I believe in you". Sometimes that's all it takes. I think your ex is trying to do the best thing for her but he is encroaching on your rights.
2006-11-20 23:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have some sort of order giving you certain visiting rights.Then you can contact the police and force him to let her visit.For example say when you got your divorce the judge gave you weekend visitation.Like from 3pm Friday to oh say 6pm Sunday.Then you went to get her on Friday and he refused to let her go with you.Then under those circumstances he would be in violation of a court order which is an arrestable offense and he could be make let her go or face arrest.But if you have no such order and you both just have an agreement between the two of you.Then you need to take him to family court and get a custody order so you don't have to put up with this in the future.Good Luck!
2006-11-21 11:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your visitation with your daughter has no bearing on the outcome of her academics in school. What does your divorce decree say? Does it say anywhere in it about the childs failing in school limits the visitation of the MOM?
Have some cahonies WOMAN------Get your decree out and call the POLICE and exercise your rights. Show the Officer your decree and have this child and her belongings brought to you for your visitation.
You can also seek the court for a Rule to Show Cause----meaning your X is denying you visitation rights to your child!!
You need to have some cahonies and not be manipulated by your controlling X husband!!
2006-11-21 07:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. You have every rights to see you child regardless of the punishment...Both parents should follow throught the punishment. For example.. when you get your child...she should be continuing being grounded at your house. and vice versa.
I have had the SAME problem with my ex hubby. My son was living with his dad, and his dad would not let my son stay all night with me cause he wanted him "home' that night... well, my son would call me later on and to tell me that he is staying all night at his friend's house. I got a lawyer and my son is with me now... now the problem I have is when my son is grounded, my ex hubby don't follow through the punishment at his house. My ex lets my son be ungrounded. Now my son wants to go to his house when he is grounded at my house and I tell him no because his dad is not following through the orders. both parents are suppose to be a team.
2006-11-21 13:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by rupmsn2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is obviously the wrong punishment for a bad grade. what was he thinking ? Sounds like he needs the disipline ~ not her or you ! If, he's unable to make the right decisions then, perhalps a judge ( in court ) will have to do it for him !
2006-11-21 07:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that a custody issue? How can one parent ground a child from seeing another? I've never heard of such a stupid thing...Why doesn't he take away the phone, stereo, TV, & computer?
2006-11-21 07:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a court order allowing you visitation, then he cannot make a unilateral decision not allowing her to see you. He is in contempt of court. Therefore, you have every right to file a contempt in court. He is not acting as the responsible parent.
2006-11-21 08:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what!! jus for a little mistake your daughter have made and he banned you frm seeing her
well tell him you got the rights to see your own daughter
rember mother have got more priorties than father. if it does't work then find a way to fight back to get your daughter back by informing the court (custody)
2006-11-21 07:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by AnGeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have been deemed by the courts as a bad parent - you should file for visitation via the courts.
2006-11-21 08:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to court, he can't keep you from seeing your daughter because she got a bad grade. He cannot keep you from seeing your daughter as long as you have joint custody.
2006-11-21 07:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by tiggerkitty3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋