i fallen out with my friend of 12 years and i promised i keep all her secrets but she gone and spreaded all mine. i dont want to tell hers as i am not that kind of person. i dont what to do i am scared she told people my deepest secret and i am hiding myself away. Please help
2006-11-20 23:24:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you need to get together w/ her & tell her how you feel
about what she did. Let her know that it was nOT right for her to do that & you thought better of her. Remind her that true friends do NOT do this & that she hurt your feelings & made your life a bit of a mess by doing what
she did. She should know that what she did was wrong & that she should NEVER tell anothers secrets unless they were out to hurt or harm someone. Hope she never does this again & good luck .
2006-11-20 23:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well az,
Dont worry. Just calm down and think of these questions.
How many things are there that happen around the world?
In those things how many are remembered forever by the people?
Very few and fewer than that. We can also use nothing for them. Isn't it? So what ever the blame that you are facing now is only for few days. After that everyone will forget that thing. You have to forget that thing and don't speak to such persons who ever talks to you about that secret. Make new friends in your life. You will be totally out of that.
And coming to other person. She never has the right to be a friend. You are a nice personality that never did wrong to that person who harmed you. People like you get good friends. Ok. So don't do any thing to her and just go for new friends.
An elderly advice is never leave the door open when your dear ones are around you. Because it may not be that person but you will get a doubt on that person which will make you to lose him. So shut every secret inside you and just share the happy moments with the friends. This is the lesson you have learned from your past experience.
Bye and take care.
2006-11-20 23:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by nag K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write to your friend saying how upset you are about the way she has acted and by spreading all your secrets around. Do you want to be friends with her again? Say to her you wouldn't dream of telling people her secrets. Just hold your head up high - I don't know what you've done - what your secrets were but by her spreading them she doesn't look a good person. Get out there and make new friends - especially if you are worried about your current friends knowing your secrets. Good luck.
2006-11-20 23:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she isnt a vey good friend is she? Dont spread hers u will only stoop to her level. I dont know wot ur secret is but just deny it and say she is a liar. Dont hide away nothing can be that bad and im sure eveyone around u has secrets that are worse! More importantly at least u have learnt what she is really like! We all trust people and get let down and it is horrible, but it makes u stronger!
2006-11-20 23:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a nasty s**t!
if that happens i would just deny it and say it was made up because you have fallen out!
or you could ( just this once ) do the same back that will teach your " mate " to spread private stuff about you!
don't hide away forget about this person and get proper friend's!
2006-11-20 23:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma with come back and hit her in the face 10 fold.... stay true to your self and keep your dirty secrets... this will only make you a stronger person... 12 yrs is hard to just throw away and if you two to do become friends again she will being feeling like a jack!!
2006-11-20 23:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by starjessiegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone goes tru experiences that they regret... u just have to find ur way out of this and excel tru cos den uy wud av learnt wat the lesson was... ignore ha tellin ur secrets i no it hurt.. boy i do no dat cos i av bin tru that but all the same all this makes u a stronga person.. there is no need for u too hide away cos she is not worth all the stress.. u no my motto in life is no one can bring u down unless u want to b brought dwn so i feel dat she is just talkin n except u want it to affect u it wudnt affect u n also ur real friends wud stand by u n av ur bac... so stop hiding cos u av done notin rong.. dnt worry karma does happen n it wud catch up with ha in the nearest future n it wud b a lot worse dan u av experienced cos she went all rong.. but u dnt go spreadin all ha secrets cos it doesnt make u d biga man it just make u like ha.. n u dnt want to b associated on ha level again.. so im sure with tym all wud heal n u wud b able to progress with that experience makin u a stronga, wisa n much more abled individual...
2006-11-21 00:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by blackpearl5504 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower your self to your so called friend,draw a line under it as one of the knocks in life,if you hide others will think its because of what you did,just go out,if any think is said just laugh it off as gossip
2006-11-21 02:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's time to get down and dirty. Take revenge, share the secrets, and make up some stuff too.
2006-11-20 23:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW what a b*tch... i say do the better thing... rise above it... ignore her petty ways to hurt you and move on... and next time dont let all your secrets out... sometimes its easier to hold a little back - just in case
Good luck hon... things will blow over in time...
2006-11-20 23:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋