I found that i like this man and sometimes when i look at his eyes i can't control my feeling..........................I know he's got a same feeling as me....................he's married and have a daughter but the way he talking and his expression make me feel he was divorced.............What should i do?
2006-11-20 22:58:02 · 38 answers · asked by JY2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends...If that married man is already separated from his wifey or widowed and you loved him- then go for it girl! Age doesn't really matter. BUT, if this married man is "very much married" & just telling you that he's separated for the sake of hooking you up, THEN i dont think it's a good idea for you to complicate things. You know what is right & wrong and your instinct will always tell you what to do. Just make sure you wont hurt or step on anybody when you do it.
2006-11-20 23:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLuv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After he gets divorced make a decision. Otherwise, leave it alone. All you will be is the third, disposable wheel if you get involved with him.
Look around you. Are there any nice, single men in your age group that you might have an interest in?
Don't make the mistake of taking on this Older man's burdens, he's had a long time to create them and a long time to correct them. It says something that he's put you in this situation. It says he wants his needs met and is willing to sacrifice your dignity to have that. Find a guy you can proudly share with family and friends. The sneaky, dishonest thing gets old fast.
2006-11-20 23:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could you
would you
1)be his mistress for life
have him have an apartment for you and his family too...
and you may spend a lot of time by yourself, because he will be with his family? this does work for some...could you do it..?
2)how about you talking him into having two wives in one home, many benefits for the wives, half of ALL the work and all of the benefits, plus you get a new girlfriend to hang around with, then he is a minority and has to do what you two day...
3)or is he going to get a real legal separation and then a divorce and live with you.....
those are all viable ways to handle this one...
4)plus this one may save everyone a lot of heart ache....walk away ..do not look back....forget it all...
I would go with # 2, then #1 if I had to make the choice for you and me.... but I am not you or him....
think
good luck
smile
2006-11-21 02:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really pisses me off.
I bet a single, available guy wouldn't stand a chance with you.
But you'll give your heart, body and mind to a man that will never
and can never return the feelings.
You already know what you should do.
Hope you like getting laid.
Because that's all you're gonna get.
You might get trinkets and false affection; but when you boil it all away, you're just a young mistress that won't be able to find her own man because she's caught up in chasing someone else's.
PS- If you like cheap hook-ups, write me.
2006-11-20 23:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you love each other ,go for it .
People are so hung up in age differences but it doesn`t matter when it comes to grown up LOVE.
You see wisdom and kindness ,where others see wrinkles and need .
My Father had a friend who was 49 when he married his 19 year old bride .They have 3 children and are still married after 20 years.
Hope this helps.
P.S. The wife is very protective of her husband to this day .She adores him.
2006-11-20 23:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Run the other way! You are on completely different levels of maturity and experience. He once talked to his wife & looked at her the same way he looks at you, and he'll do and say those things again with someone else after you.
Don't tie yourself to someone you know is a cheater. He'll have ties to his daughter forever and his wife for years to come. Find a single man who has no other obligations - hopefully one that's not going thru his mid-life crisis.
2006-11-21 00:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by I saw whatudid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Katie (27) chose Tom (44)....Can't stand either one of them. I (38) am going to choose him (53). Only I am getting divorced and he IS divorced. Try finding someone that isn't already attached.
2006-11-21 03:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
27 years old and when she has the chance to possibly jump into bed with sexy MARRIED male, her common sense goes out the window and her brains turn to mush. Very very sad. Even the average 16 year old would know better.
2006-11-21 01:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people blame the age differnce between prince Charles and Princess Diana for their divorce. RUn away baby. He's too old
2006-11-20 23:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
key word is MARRIED!!! doing the affair thing with a married man is wrong---if this man is officially divorced then go for it...otherwise leave that mess alone!
2006-11-20 23:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋