I am finding he is less interested in being intimate with me, and if we are, he is not passionate anymore. very rarely we have oral, Well I am not recieving it, but he is. Its usually the "lets have a quick one turn over and go to sleep. he says he loves me just as much as ever, but I he said he is not happy I have put wait one. I have been out of work for over 15months due to an injury resulting in an operation on my shoulder so i have not been anywhere near as physical as i use to. Mind you, he is not a small man either, not obese but very stocky. I can understand long hours y worhking etc and kiddies can tire you down, but as for being passieonate when we are intimate well thats even more of a change. we no longer hold hands or kiss in pblic or even have him coming up to me at home and kissing me passionately. I love this man very much but cannot understand the big change in him?? can anyone help me. i try to trust him but I am starting to have that gut instinct not to anymore.
2006-11-20 22:15:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u may or may not have anything to worrie about , u r feeling ur husbend isnt interested in u but u need to step back and look at everything from a diffrent point of view. u have been hurt and off work for 15 months , is that putting a strain on the budget? if so he might be worried about the bills and taking care of his family. and u are doing ur best to keep up with the house , kids and everything else a women has to do to keep a family going. u both have a lot of stress u are going through and men and women dont deal with things the same way. i would suggest u and ur hubby try and sit down and have a talk to find out what the real problems are . its hard to be intiment even with someone u love when ur stressed out over other things.
2006-11-20 23:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by slimpepsiaholic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not good...not good at all. Sounds like part of my life!
Try a few things. Talk with him...try to make him see things from you side. Go on a date once a week/ya'll's night..no talk of kids/money or need to be done things. If he will not give it a try...that ol' gut instinct is most likely right on the money or very close.
Will only receive oral & masturbates? Hmmmmmmm? Is he on the computer? If so look around were he has been online. Check your cell phone bill? These are questions you might not want to really know the answers too. I didn't......felt like someone sucker punched me in the gut. The more I looked...the more I found....that gut instinct never let me down.
Don't ask if you don't want to go down that road.
Good Luck.
2006-11-20 22:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your going down a one way street the wrong way !
He's gotta give first before he gets ! Tell him if, he wants to masterbate then he's got to make a meal outta you while he's doin' it ! If, you can't get what you want in one store ~ you may have to shop somewhere else ! Let him know that you are not too happy on being left out ! If, he's caring he'll really try to take the right steps to being a real man ! If, he can't try putting the idea in his head that you need to try something new , cause it's gettin' old. ask him what you two should do to spice things up ! You can't have this continue cause, you're gettin' frustrated.
2006-11-20 22:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hum' this is a hard one' I am not sure but it sounds like he has either lost interest or he has gotten into a comfort zone. Some guys when they get into a comfort zone they take every thing for granted. I hope that's the problem' you can work that out. If he has lost interest' It's hard to say. The best thing i can tell you to do is talk to him about it and get down to the root. I think you feel left out of his life. If i am right you need to let him know. As far as him doing it for himself i think you need to let him know that it bothers you. If he is pleasing himself he should be pleasing himself with you. That is what married people do. Hope this helps.
2006-11-20 22:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is cheating on u and is getting tried of u but he is also trying 2 make u still feel wanted in his life since he stills pretends he still luvs u and kisses u often but not passionately. He is having an affair with someone younger than u .
But the fact that he masturbates says something else. He might not be having any affair bcos if he is, he wouldn't masturbate but instead go 2 the lover-girl.
So, in summary, he is tried of u and maybe u r no more hot in bed. Have a heart-2-heart talk with him. Find out how he feels. He might be under stress or something. Goodluck!!!
2006-11-20 22:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by genipabu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds very suspicious. If he isn't having sex with you it sounds like he is having sex with someone else. Either that, or he resents you being at home and not working.
2006-11-20 22:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may be getting some strange. I'm almost positive that it has something to do with your weight gain that you spoke of. You say that he is no small fry either but that does not matter, guys don't see it that way. I think you had better be watching him because I have a feeling he is on his way out of your relationship.>
2006-11-20 22:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with you'r instinct, women's six sence is usually right.There is not a easy way- talk to him and find out what's really going on, you deserve to know the truth, you can't go on like this!
2006-11-20 22:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah...it hearts..sometimes It is not easy to understand the partner's desires ...but in your case i believe your huby is going with someone else..or he has someone else in his mind...that's why he in less interested in relation these days...
he masturbates with the imagination of that other one.
be careful...take some extra care in your relationship...it is a very crucial time...all the best
2006-11-20 22:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by viky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope l am wrong for your sake but that sounds very similar to how my husband was acting towards me when he was cheating. It could have something to do with your weight gain but you would think atleast in the privacy of your own home he would still be affectionate. It sounds to me like he could be feeling guilty for something he has done wrong. He may be just worn out but at his age sex is normally always on the agenda. Try speaking to him, let him know how you feel and give him a chance to defend his actions before you start accusing him of wrong doing. I really hope for your sake that he is just going through some sort of rough patch and you can sort things out. Best of luck for a great outcome.
2006-11-20 22:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋