I have recently gotten out of friends with benefits relationship which I had been in for just over a year. This has been over now for 3 months. She was already in a friends with benefits relationship with a man who is living with his girlfriend and has been for 3 years.
I accepted the other man because I was really into her however yet another man arrived on the scene who she met in a club in another sexual relationship. It was then she said she no longer wanted to have sex with me.
However she does still want to be friends, but I think this is really hard thing to do particularly in that situation because:
a) I can't watch her sleep with just anyone when she is a divorced mother or 3 kids
b) I would probably get jealous
c) I really, really love her
d) Her ex-husband lives with her
e) She doesn't have much time as it is, and I feel she would pick going out with other guys over me
Would you try and be friends?
2006-11-20 20:23:08 · 6 answers · asked by adam b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like she is enjoying her freedom. I think, personally, that you should've made is exclusive with her when you figured you love her. insted, you kept it going on as friends w/ benifits.so technicly, if you were just friends anyways, why can't you stay her friend? you stood by her when she dated others. if you didn't like it, you should've said something. even if you just got a little jealous when you heard about the other guy, you should've said something.
right now, it all depends on if you can stand by her, and listen to her talk about the other guy, or watch her leave with him. unless you tell her how you really feel. it may make a huge difference in what you two can have. if you think you can have a healthy relationship with her then I say tell her how you feel, but don't get your hopes up, there always is a possibility of rejection.
2006-11-20 20:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief that sounds like an emotional minefield to me. I'd walk away. This lady sounds very confused. She obviously doesn't want you but she doesn't want to let you go either. Staying friends with her will only make it difficult for you to develop a meaningful relationship with somebody else.
2006-11-20 20:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let her feel that you are friends with her but try and avoid her. I mean you don't have to tell her that you're not friends with her anymore. I know its hard to do that if you're deeply in love but the lady does not deserve your love. I feel she's just using you.
2006-11-20 20:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shanu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best to just distance yourself from her, as it will hurt seeing her with different men. she did choose someone else over you, and u will always remember it, she didn't value your love for her as she should have, and why punish yourself, why set yourself up for this pain just to be with her once in a while as friends. sometimes it's best to get away from people who can hurt us, and go on with our lives, and find someone who will truly love us, than waste our life on someone who will never be who we want them to be. we can't put our dreams and future into a person who has chosen someone else to love, we will only end up hurt. never accept someone else in your relationship, end it when it happens, because we will just be hurting our own self worth, and we will be settlling for less than what we could have in life, if we put our minds on someone else.
2006-11-21 03:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't try and be friends with her. She has no problem forming "friendships" and I'd want no part of her life style.
2006-11-20 23:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah!
2006-11-20 20:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋