and he hasn't got any friends.
I try to introduce him amoung my friends, however he's everytime out of conversation. (just listening them)
I love him very much and he's very funny & esprit man when he's very relax with just me. I wonder why people can't understand REAL him.
What can I do for him?
2006-11-20 19:58:58 · 21 answers · asked by kiraz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
love him as he is , he loves you for who you are. so why try to change him. he will in his own time find friends in his own way, or perhaps he does have friends but, does not trust them to be around you ! don't blow a good thing, by pushing and nagging and trying to change him , he may just leave. he may just be very selective on who he associates with ! did you consider that !
2006-11-20 20:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept him as he is. If he is a introvert and dosent enjoy company let him be. Obviously he is not a very popular chap but so what- he has you who understands him so well i'm sure. Just be with each other and enjoy things like music, long drives, quiet dinners together which should work out very well. If you are the outgoing type and need to interact with more people other than just your husband leave aside special time every week for yourself when you do your own thing with your friends. Dont drag your husband along. Your outing will only be spoilt .
2006-11-21 04:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by pakir poyum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has made it this far in life and gotten himself a wife...so he is not socially inept. Let him be, you don't have to be social to be whole and if he's happy, there is no reason why he should change things. Some people need to be social and some don't. He may have fallen in love with you because you are what he isn't and that makes him whole...he doesn't need anything more than that. If you are feeling like he is suffocating you and needs friends, he might just need a hobby. If your friends are making comments, get new friends or tell them to leave it alone.
I am a little shy and take some time to warm up to people, that's just me and I still can have relationships with people, but I don't have to. Sometimes it just wears me out to have friends since anyone you become close to ends up needing you and sometimes you just want to be left alone to think without having to worry about someones feelings or needs.
Just let him be and continue to love him.
2006-11-21 04:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband would like to make friends without feeling that he has to make a lot of conversation, then he can join an activity such as a sporting team or an art class, or a Scrabble group, or whatever he enjoys doing. That will allow him to spend time with people who share his interests, but without the pressure of having to make conversation about random things.
To make conversation with the people in his group activity, he can talk about whatever it is the group does (Scrabble, football, whatever). That will make it easier for him.
2006-11-21 04:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by liz_in_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to mix often. You need not be a good talker but being a good listen is also a virtue. Being around will make people realise that he is always there and this will eventually make him open up. Be patient. Good Luck
2006-11-21 04:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just like my husband..he claims he's not very social but he can say hi to other people and hold a conversation if need be...sometimes thats the way he is ..it sounds like he likes to observe others before he jumps in which isnt bad...now would you rather have him be quiet or obnoxious like some other men ? trust me, men can embarass you sometimes lol... i would just say let him do what he wants...ask him why hes so quiet and see what he says and ask him what would he want to do...find something he likes to do and invite other people to go along...
2006-11-21 04:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you don't have to worry about him cheating on you. If your the only thing in his life that he feels he can be himself embrace it love him back the same. Don't try and change him, He sees no problem. your the one who sees a problem, and should try and change yourself to connect with him the same way he connects with you. Just because he's not a trophy to showcase to your friends thats not whats important to him. Love is the only thing important to him.
2006-11-21 04:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by secretsofthe end 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 suggestions,
find something he really enjoys doing. Like something he is really pationate about and has never had a problem expressing his feelings doing. E.g a game of scrabble for example. Then invite your friends round for a game (lame evening really but you know what i'm getting at) and see how it goes.
secondly maybe give him some alcohol, tends to loosen me up when I go out and make me feel more relaxed.
good luck with it
2006-11-21 04:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by onetopdesigner 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe thats just the way he is. I mean is he happy that he doesnt have any friends. Maybe you are enough for him. The upside is that having no friends means he has got more time for you.
2006-11-21 04:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by sunline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband just keep taking me around his family. Over time I got use to them and just started talking. Give him time
2006-11-21 04:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋