What is the easiest way to wean her? If I don't breastfeed her she will cry non-stop to the point she starts choking, and I will not just let her cry to that point. And she will not drink from a bottle. Can anyone help me out?
2006-11-20 17:06:59 · 14 answers · asked by cece 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
breastfeeding a 14month old baby is still okey. its up to 2 years though to breastfeed a baby. but its up to you. maybe you can put her in a cradle to make her feel at ease. so that she can relax herself from your swinging... hope this helps.
2006-11-20 19:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by NilanB 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have 6 kids and have nursed all of them, (am still nursing the twins, they are 19 months old) Maybe she is not ready to quit. But here is my experiences:
1st baby- nursed her until she was 2 yrs 3 months old. She wouldn't even sleep all night. She would wake up several times every night to be nursed. The last night was a nightmare. I would crawl out of her bed and minutes later she would start screaming. It was like that all night. I said no more! You have to gently and nicely say no when she wants to nurse, do something else instead. Depending upon the time of day/night, maybe cuddle her with a favorite blankey or animal, give her a tippy cup (no bottle, otherwise you'll have to wean her from that too) and sit in a rocking chair with her, read her a book, go for a walk, have her help you with a chore, give her a bath, anything but DO NOT give her the boob. If you can do it for 3 days, you've got it made. My 2nd baby I had to stop so I can take an antibiotic for an infection. She wasn't ready, she was 14 months old too, and even to this day, (she's 8) I can see that she has problems because of that. Baby 3 and 4 stopped on their own at 18 months. they just weren't interested anymore. I would try to give it to them and they would just turn their head away. So I said, OK. Like I said, babies 5 and 6 I am still nursing, they are still very needy in that dept. and I don't have a problem with giving it to them still. I can see that they are nursing less though, but they still want to be with their mama in that special way. It's great nursing twins! It's hard at first, but once they get older, it's alot easier. Anyways.....hope this helps.
2006-11-21 01:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A lot of moms feel outside pressure to wean once the 12 month mark passes. Do YOU want to wean her or are you feeling pressure to wean? There is nothing wrong with continuing to nurse her if that works for the two of you. Don't let anyone else try to influence you if the relationship is working for you.
If weaning is truely something that is in YOUR heart (and not MIL or the next door neighbor or Aunt Mary), you should try working on a bedtime routine. For now, let it continue to involve nursing. Bath, jammies, stories, nurse, bed. Start working on only nursing her until she is drowsy instead of nursing her all the way to sleep. Then, you can hand her off to dad with a sippy cup of water to go lay down in bed with her and cuddle if you want. (Rubbermaid "juice boxes" with the straws work well. You can squeeze a bit into their mouth as they learn how to use it.) That way she is not crying by herself, but being comforted by someone who loves her.
Check out the book "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. It might have some good ideas that you can put into practice as well.
The link below on night weaning might also be helpful.
2006-11-21 08:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't say much. I breastfed my son until he was almost 18 months old. Research shows for every 6 months children are breastfed they carry the immunities for 1-2 years. I wanted to ensure my son got the best start I could give him.
I never had to worry about him beggin in public for it, pullin on my shirt, etc. I decided to quit when it became weird for me.
I suggest you NOT giving her bottles. It would be a bad thing to start. Immediately start her on sippy cups. My son was started on sippy cups at 3 months (water).
Keep in mind when you breastfeed her until she falls asleep you are letting all that sugar settle in her mouth over night. I suggest you shake up her night time routine a bit. For example if you eat dinner, play then bathe her then read to her then bed. Try play...dinner...read...bathe and then bed. If at all possible have someone else put her to sleep.
She is at a great age to learn to fall asleep on her own. Try to follow a routine. And when you lay her in her crib tell her goodnight, etc. Leave her with a sippy cup with water only. Then leave the room totally. let her cry. return in 5 minutes. Try to get her to drink if she is coughing too much, lay her down and leave again...come back every 5 minutes for 45 minutes. after than increase time to 10 minutes. This is exactally how I weaned my son. works GREAT. Yes, it take time. Took us almost 2 weeks, but our determination made us all happy in the end.
He is now almost 3 and goes to sleep without troubles. All we have to say it "its bed time" or "its nap time". Hope this helps.
2006-11-21 03:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Summer H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not ready yet. There is no reason to make her scream herself to sleep. She is still very much a baby. The WHO says all babies need breastmilk for 2 years at least.
What you can do though, is nurse her until she is full and drowsy then unlatch her and rock her until she is asleep.
My 21 month old still nurses to sleep. his dad can get him to sleep without nursing or crying when he is home. I prefer for him to sleep with a tummy full of warm mama milk. I know he will be big all to soon and i will miss having a sweet baby. Don't rush it!
2006-11-21 03:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you really need to wean her, you'll have to let her cry. Try a sippy cup, maybe one with a soft lid. It took my first daughter a week before she was over "babas" but it was a hard week, especially at bed time. Make sure your baby girl has a full tummy, and maybe you'll just have to rock her to sleep. Explain that she can have warm water/juice or whatever you plan to give her, but you are both growing up and can't have your nursing time anymore. You are big girls now! Wish you success!
2006-11-21 01:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by AMEWzing 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
u have to give soft bottle feed for a day time n u have to take twice a day n then once n cut off so if she cries u have to give soft bottle feed only she will take after 5 or 10 mints.(crying exhausts
2006-11-21 04:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by nambirad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to wean her, you'll have to let her cry. Try a sippy cup, maybe one with a soft lid. It took my first daughter a week before she was over "babas" but it was a hard week, especially at bed time. Make sure your baby girl has a full tummy, and maybe you'll just have to rock her to sleep. Explain that she can have warm water/juice or whatever you plan to give her, but you are both growing up and can't have your nursing time anymore. You are big girls now! Wish you success!
2006-11-21 01:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by goat xian 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
my daughter is 19 months almost 20 months and still nursing to fall asleep i know its hard TRUST ME !!! i suggest trying to wean in the day time .. try bandaids over the nipple , they also have the breast shaped bottles that are awsome Good luck
2006-11-21 01:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by amaniandricardo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's totally in control. She cries you give in. You will never wean her that way. You have allowed her to get away with crying to get something she wants...basically you have spoiled her. If you won't let her cry "non stop" and learn that her crying isn't going to get her what she wants then you have put yourself in the position of continuing to breastfeed her, you're going to be an abosolute pushover when the terrible two set in.
2006-11-21 01:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋