I recently caught my 16 year old son without his shirt on and his girlfriend sleeping in the same bed. I let them go after being positive that they didn't do anything. Then I found my daughter taking off of her shirt for her older boyfriend and when I asked her why, she said that her brother's girlfriend does it for him. I was speechless and left it like that. What should I have done?
2006-11-20 17:03:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sounds like they both need a good beating. You can be a little rough since they're older and the skin is more resilient...lol
2006-11-20 17:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by Alecto 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mom unless you want grandchildren you need to stop this mess NOW. You need to let your teens know how bad this kind of stuff can lead to and punish them from letting them see there boyfriends or girlfriends and take away the phone and television and make them do there homework. I am sorry to feel strict but my mom would have got the belt out if she knew {not saying she didnt} but she would literally keep me from seeing guys and when i started working at 18 she made sure she was the only one taking me to and from work and she wanted to know everything and if i wasnt honest she knew that i wasnt honest and i would get lectures about it. I wasnt allowed to have guys over period yea i would put a fight about it and whine and tell her she is ruining my life and yea i got popped in the mouth for saying foul stuff to her but you know what i am thankful to this day why she did what she did i am now married i lost my virginity the night i was married and i am now having my first child and i thank her alot for keeping it real with me and not putting up with my crap and i am sure that when a parent is thanked like that after years of being away from home they feel alot better that they did the things they did for there kids sake. No matter how old i am if i brought a guy home my butt was done with. I wasnt even allowed to go the movie theaters i went one time thats only because i begged my butt of and she gave me a curfew and i was 17 i had to be home before 1130 well since the movie was a little longer than expected she was angry and she took the phone from me she didnt allow my guy friends to come over nothing if they called i was busy and i couldnt talk. And i appreciate everything if she had not done what she did i would of been a mom at 17. Please dont let your teens get away with this its time you put your foot down. Good Luck
2006-11-21 01:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already insure they have access to birth control. You can not stop them from being sexually active but must decide if you want to allow them to have sex in your home , if not they will go elsewhere it's simple as that. After insuring they have access to protection tell them although you can do nothing if they are sexually active they can not do so in your home. Of course you can't be there 24/7 so really think about it. Some parents feel they at least know they are safe at home as opposed to parking, etc.
2006-11-21 09:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your children need to be put in check & realtionships need to end or you need to talk with the "couples". I would not have let off 2 teens in bed together, they were planning on doing something, no innocence there
2006-11-21 02:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why are you letting them be together? you should make them break off the relationship if they're not going to be resposible. honestly, taking shirts off?!?!?! Tell them that they've shown you they're not ready for a mature relationship, and they have to call it off. you should call they're parents, too. not to tattle or anything, just say that ur kids are grounded until they can be more mature, and don't let them hang out with they're boyfriend/girlfriend. you have to sit on them though, if you know they're sneaking out to see them, or doing other things, confront them on it, they're only trying to see how much they can get away with, so your gonna have to tighten the belt to show them you need buisness.
2006-11-21 11:18:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you as I have a teenager also. I would not allow them to be behind closed doors in my home. I would also talk to them and let them know my concerns and feelings. I know if they really want to be together they will find a way but i would not make it easy for them in my home. good luck to you!
2006-11-21 12:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have put your foot down and put a stop to this mess now. You need to have a talk with your children about why they shouldn't do things like this and they aren't allowed in your house.
2006-11-21 01:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by middleagedcowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
theres no excuses....they no better you should punish them any way you can unless you want to be a grandma and have a grand child at an early age
2006-11-21 12:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by littlered102012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have put her boyfriend and his girlfriend out of your house and yelled at them like you've never yelled at them before. You need to set boundary and ground rules for your kids; if they don't listen then you need to figure out what kind of punishment would suit them.
2006-11-21 01:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Dimples 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't allow your kids to be in their rooms with members of the opposite sex unsupervised.
2006-11-21 02:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋