it always happens. either i really like him and we get together and when he really starts to like me I lose interest and then he gives up and then I start to like him again! OR the guy really likes me and I don't like him that much and then he starts to give up on me and all of a sudden I realize how much I do like him and that I should have gave him a chance, and then when I do give him a chance and he starts to like me again I realize that I really don't like him like that! (did you catch all that, lol) Damn I'm ****** Up? Huh? I don't do it on purpose though! Is this like a sign of commitment phobia?? I don't want to be like this, got any suggestions that would help? Because my relatioships are always sooo f'd up! Either I really like the guy and he treats me like ****! Or I don't really like the guy and he worships me! HELP PLEASE
2006-11-20 17:02:08 · 7 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you like the challenge. once guys start liking you its no longer a challenge. if the guy is good to you its not fun, and if he's bad to you its a challenge to get him to be good.
i used to be like that.
you have to start looking for a challenge in a different way. like try dating smart guys.
2006-11-20 17:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by Informer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Eagles said it best in the song Desperado " You only want the ones you can't get." I'm married now, but before, when I was younger, I wanted all the ones I couldn't have. The ones I COULD get, were "okay" or "decent." I had a lot of growing up to do. It might be a mental thing. You might be the type who likes a guy to fight for you or something. Nothing wrong with that. You might want the feeling of being fought for, or won. You don't want to just "settle." I never wanted to settle. You have a good head on your shoulders. The right choices are in YOUR hands. Have a blessed evening, and good luck to your love life.
2006-11-20 17:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many girls have this attidute as i've seen till now.
The problem is that you seek to be loved and try to conquer people that dont like you in the first start, because you simply cant accept that,or these men are really pushing your feelings suddenly and you just loose it.
All that i think though is the first,not because im a man but because ive seen it happen to me the same way,stop try to reach over you limits this way you might hurt peoples feelings and its bad.
Life is a simple weel that turns and come against you,
some say "theres no heaven and hell down and up,its on the earth that we live"
I hope i helped you cause i know how you feel.
Try to set your feelings think why and then create a new relatinship.
Best wishes.
2006-11-21 03:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by nicko_lps 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a guy doesn't like you, you feel free to like him since there's no chance of getting entangled in an actual relationship; but once he starts to like you, you run a mile. I agree with your assessment: you are afraid of commitment because you are afraid of getting hurt. My advice: take the risk. One day, it will all be worth it.
2006-11-20 17:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have the common like a guy who is hard to get once you have him the hunt is over and you need to find new prey. It's simple change your ways find a guy that treats you well and stick with it.
2006-11-20 17:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think about how much u like him and try to not to lose interest. IF he wants to do something unconfortable, just say "I'm not ready for this."
2006-11-20 17:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
afraid of commitment.
afraid of failure at a relationship.
afraid it wont last.
2006-11-20 17:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋