How does a lesbian couple keep their love ALIVE?

Question

I have met my soul mate.... i feel it in my gut... so how do we keep it nice and fresh?!.. going on 2 years.... but we got a looong way to go.... gimme some fun and lasting tips!

Answer 1

For my honey and myself it is all about talking... sounds boring but we spend A LOT of time talking to each other (and that is one of the reasons we also spend alot of time still doing other things that are MORE FUN! ;) ). I think she is one of the smartest people in the world so it is an incredible turn on to have these great in depth conversations that challenge us both.

Of course, the fact that she is the most beautiful woman in the world helps... ;)

But seriously, I think the fact that I respect her and that we challenge each other interlelecutually helps A LOT!

The other aspect of that is that a lot of the time we spend talking is done in our bed, and in our bedroom there is no TV. To us, our bedroom is like a little escape from the world where we lay in bed (generally naked which also helps ;) and we talk for hours. That means that she is always my focus, and I am hers, when we are there.

I think one problem is that people get too comfortable and then end up taking the other for granted; which we both try NOT to do specifically. We just make sure that no matter how busy we get that we try to spend a little quality time every day...

One other thing is to DO THINGS together, it sounds stupid and like common sense but what people forget is that it is the things we do that make the memories that are important and keeps things interesting we go camping and backpacking together as well as take a lot of road trips). Experiencing new things or new places together also helps to solidify relationships and, as mentioned, helps keep life interesting, which in turn keeps everything else interesting... ;)

Good luck to you both, it is always good to hear about good stable relationships... does my gay heart good! :)

Answer 2

First, take a breath and locate some commas. 2d, element out that if SHE needs to do something OF HER very own it extremely is time for her to locate a job and choose how she is going to try this. She's no longer making HER very own existence if she's anticipating you to pay her way. procuring her guidance substitute right into a truthful commerce for her making a house, yet now she's stressful plenty and offering... what? except she has a job 8 states away, she'd extra suitable think of a sprint longer in the past she leaps. If she needs to circulate to a state the place you are able to legally marry..... DO IT. And marry her. because of the fact then in case you cut up up, you have some criminal rights to the youngsters. Or -- stall until the Supremes choose for on DOMA and Prop 8. And make couples counseling a non-negotiable call for if she expects any help from you. She's behaving like a brat; in case you probably did no longer have young ones i could say tell her to circulate to hell.

Answer 3

by living by the top 21 lesbian commandments of course.

1) Tell her you admire her
2) Always tell her you love at all times no matter what
3) When shes upset hold her tight
4) Pick her over all the other Girls you hang out with
5) Play with her hair
6) Pick her up and tickle her and wrestle with her
7) Just talk to her
8) Tell her Jokes
9) Bring her flowers just because
10) Hold her hand and run, Just hold her hand
11)Let her fall asleep in your arms
12) Sing to her no matter hoe awful you sound
13) Get her mad at you and kiss her
14)Take her for Picnics
15) Tell her she looks beautiful
16) when shes sad, stay on the phone with her, Even if shes not saying anything!
17) Look into her eyes and smile
18) Kiss her on the forehead
19)Slow dance with her even if there is no music
20) Kiss her in the rain
21) And when you fall in love with her TELL HER!

But then again i am single so i am guessing the commandments don't work lol Congratulations on finding your soul Mate and all the Best....

Answer 4

just like a 'normal' couple

you should have a commitment and communication to each other
gave the affections and compassion that both of you needed (not only in sex)

just be on her side when she needed the most
understanding each other wants and don't kept any secret which can ruin your relationship

and just accompany her, when she tells her parents or some one close to her, that doesn't agree about lesbian. (and she do it for you to)

i hope your relation are going to be fine and also go to where both of you wanted (marriage, perhaps?)

Answer 5

Take life day by day. Tommorrow is never promised. Just realizing this will help you tolerate certain aspects and get new ideas. It's not a walk in the park to be in a long relationship!

Answer 6

Sorry, there is no answer to that!
I was with my gf for 19 years!...but sometimes, no matter WHAT you do, people grow apart!!!!
It's part of life. Sure, there is a good chance you can be together forEVER, but it's nothing you can MAKE happen. People change, relationships run their course.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Yes, I agree with all of the above.

Its the little things that mean the most. My girl is always thinking of me and doing little things for me, and that shows me how much she loves me, even if she tells me all the time she loves me.

Honesty, communication, and trust... but trust comes with the first two.

Answer 8

Three elements are needed in order to keep love in a relationship: Trust, Respect, and Communication. These three breed love.

And it never hurts to keep the flame burning. \m/

Answer 9

Admit when you are wrong and get past it. Surprise your gf with impromtu dates. Do something for her out of the blue for her, like taking lunch to her work for her. Stuff like that. And never go to bed mad at each other.

Answer 10

actually i have none....because mine did not stay alive. lol. It wasn't my fault though. I would say to always say i love you and never underestimate the power of cuddling. and holding hands. don't forget the sweet stuff bc that's how it gets old.