Like me..I keep getting drawn to guys who don't treat me the way a person should be treated by someone who supposedly cares about them.
2006-11-20 16:40:44 · 15 answers · asked by ? 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
One reason is that a woman wants attention any attention even if it means compermising herself. Instead of waiting for that right guy the abusive guys are a dime a dozen.
Also, it might be that you learned this behavior from your family.
A question is...."..what is it about my past that makes it ok for me to accept this in my life?" It might be hard to figurte out at first but give it some thought and it might help you prevent the behavior in the future.
Some of us have been falsely taught that love means to sacrafice oneself and that means true love. And it isn't that, it is just foolish to think that. The biggest thing to learn is that you need a guy to be what you need. You can't sacrafice yourself for love. In order to take care of the one you love, you have to take care of yourself.
Also often the guys who treat girls like dirt, also have a very charming side that keeps the girl want to stick around. As soon as you think you can't deal with him, he is the sweetest most adorable guy on the planet. It melts your heart enough to keep you around.
You have taken the fist step in realizing you make poor choices in men. The next step is to make changes in who you choose.
2006-11-20 16:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No woman wants a long term relationship with someone who treats them like dirt. They will not want to marry somebody like that, so when they say they are looking for a nice guy, they just mean in the long run. In the mean time, often any good looking, confident man will do.
2016-05-22 04:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some women like the sense of being dominated maybe or you were around to much crap when you were young so thats all you been around and know, i was like that for a while but got the heck out and found a guy that should treat a lady with respect , you deserve that and dont settle for less or let anyone treat you like crap
2006-11-20 16:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by july 23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of gullible women are lead into believing the man they like is the man he always is. To find out that it was only the bait, once you caught...he turned into his normal self and no longer felt the need to impress or treat you well. He got what he wanted.
Always remember, most guys are selfish pigs. Dont keep a wall up, but always tread cautiously untill you know for sure the guy is what he is.
2006-11-20 16:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Snolan860 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of times that they don't realize what a jerk he is until they get in just far enough for it to be really hard to get out. Because bad guys have a lot of ways to make it almost impossible for you to leave. Why do you just get another bad guy once you get rid of the last one? I think there are just so many guys out there who treat women badly, that it's hard to find a good one. Sometimes you are just in a situation or place where there aren't a lot of good choices. And I think that a lot of girls have been hurt so much that they are used to bad behavior from guys and don't know what else to do. And I think that sometimes you just want to feel taken care of after being so badly treated and you end up with someone who seems confident and able to do that but turns out to be another jerk. And a lot of girls, A LOT have been abused or mistreated as a kid and that makes it really hard to trust your instinct about people. You kind of know he's bad, but don't think your opinion could be right and he says he loves you and...well it's hard to get out of the cycle. There's a lot of reasons, but it is possible to get out of that and find really good men who treat you with respect. Don't give up.
2006-11-20 22:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gods I hate to say this, but Oprah did a special on why we are attracted to those type of men or why we consistently have a type. The author of the book said that it's us we have to look to for the answers. I kind of understood it as to be, the universe keeps throwing a type of guy your way so that you can learn a lesson. What lesson is all up to you. Whether it's you're are so much better thatn this, and deserve someone who respects you, or in my case I learned that it doesn't matter who you're attracted to you don't have to date them.
2006-11-20 16:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by jadeaaustin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some girls have a thing for wanting to be the one to change a problem guy, and maybe others saw their mother treated badly and they look for that. Only guesses I can make.
2006-11-20 16:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about yourself? A lot of guys who are total jerks also come across as confident, even arrogant. Confidence and power are sexy in and of themselves, and dating someone who is confident and powerful can make you feel confident and powerful, too.
If you believe you deserve to be treated well, you'll get more confident -- and probably attract better guys.
2006-11-20 16:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by LCG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are looking for the companionship no matter what the price. Others fantasize about domesticating the wild beast.
2006-11-20 16:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people have to be slapped with a brick to remind themselves they are alive. If you think bad attention is okay then keep doing what you are doing. Do you have some kind of brain block that says all good looking guys are bad like that? Open your eyes.....sorry forgot its hard when they are bruised shut.
2006-11-20 17:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋