my friend has a bf. and ever sense they got together see changed and started to blow us off and didnt want to hang out with us. the bf is also a druggy. help.
2006-11-20 16:37:35 · 12 answers · asked by avery's mommy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I hate to say it. But with the bf being a druggy, and your friend being with him and changing her behavior, it is likely that your friend is becoming a druggy too. You might want to intervene so she doesn't go down the wrong path.
Even if she is in no danger of becoming a druggy, it is a cold hard reality that people will blow of their friends in favor of their sexual partners about 80% of the time. Sex addicts more people than anything, so many people that you'll be considered abnormal if you don't develop a normal addiction to sex.
2006-11-20 16:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as any friend says "Oh I would never put a guy over you", most of them will. That's just a fact.
My best friend and I have been friends for six years, that's a long time. Now she has a boyfriend for five months and she blows me off for him all the time, saying that she "loves" him and whatnot. And as much as it sucks, I've found that I just have to wait for it to run its course and then I'll have my friend back. I have other friends, and I suggest you make new ones and spend time with them. Don't blow her off or anything, but just have other friends to supplement her because she is not going to have an epiphany anytime soon.
Once they break up, which trust me, they will, because I highly doubt it will last forever, you will have your friend back. If you want her, that is, cause I know some people wouldn't.
And about the boyfriend being a druggie. Okay, it's a bad situation, and you can even tell her that. But chances are she knows it's not right and that she shouldn't be doing it, and that is why she is.
The female mind (I'm speaking as one with this) will never be understood. We want the 'bad guy' (generally) for whatever reason, and when it's a guy we like and he's a druggie or whatever, we gloss over it and pretend it isn't there.
If you start an issue with her over her boyfriend and his drug habits, it is just going to cause problems between you guys.
2006-11-20 17:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you think this is going to be a long-term arrangement (which I am preceiving you don't), I wouldn't do anything for the moment. Just let things run their course and when she suddenly starts popping up around you and wanting to hang out again, just casually mention your surprise at the fact that she's hanging out with you and not her boyfriend. You only really need to drop a subtle hint to let her know that you're not a convenience and will be relegated to second best the moment she has a boyfriend.
2006-11-20 16:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...... it sounds like she has forgotten who her friends are. You need to knock some sense into her! And also, if her boyfriend does drugs, then it is a fact that he will get her into drugs as well...... have a one on one conversation with her, tell her what is bugging you, and make her LISTEN! She needs to realize that if she keeps disrespecting her true friends, and dates a druggie, she will get no where in life. dont be afraid to approch her and tell her everything she has been doing to you guys! good luck!!!
2006-11-20 16:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by katiecakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel without telling her not to be with him. even though it may drive you absolutely crazy and you wanna say it soo bad she may get upset with you. i almost lost my friend by telling her about her bf so it's better just to let her know how you feel and still show her that you will be there no matter what her decision... don't let her bring you down and if you see she's picking up his bad habits stay away from her... she will either learn on her own or she won't... its up to her to make the right choice...
2006-11-20 16:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by heclee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police and tell them hes a druggy. u stay anonimous and ur friend doesnt think u did it
2006-11-20 16:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres not much you can do about that because if she really loves him then she will get mad at you and not talk to you for awhile. just try talking to her and letting her know how you feel so she will realize whats going on
2006-11-20 16:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by raelynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its common there nebie lovers!! but it will wear off but get the BF help drugs r bad
2006-11-20 16:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by theycallmevic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to ur friend and if she agrees wit u then fine but if she doesn't u can forget about her being ur friend .
2006-11-20 16:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal. let the swelling go down then talk to her if her friendship is worth it
2006-11-20 16:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋