I'm 18 years old, but my girlfriend and I are getting really intense. If we get married in the summer we could move intogether adn go to college and everything will work out fine, but my family keeps telling me im too young. What should i do?
2006-11-20 16:31:21 · 19 answers · asked by URLdumb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 18 years old, but my girlfriend and I are getting really intense. If we get married in the summer we could move intogether adn go to college and everything will work out fine, but my family keeps telling me im too young. What should i do?
She is mormon and doesn't believe in me and here sharing an apartment, even if we sleep in different rooms.
2006-11-20 16:39:50 · update #1
if you dont know you bettewr wait remerber its your life you have to live it if she loves you she will wait move in together see how that works
2006-11-20 16:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by big_al225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not too young, but your probably not mature enough. Life isn't all roses and cream. And your question suggests that is how you are seeing things.
You could move in together w/o being married (if your okay with that sort of thing) and go to college(if you are going to the same college) and things may work out fine.
Personal opinion: Wait. Live life as a non-married adult for a little while. I'm not saying cheat on your GF, but just enjoy yourself in the college experience. It is very different if your married.
Edit - I take it that you are not LDS yourself. You need to think long and hard if you want to marry into a religion that is not your own. Particularly this one. (I speak from experience) My previous opinion stands: Wait. If your getting married just so you can have sex, its not for the right reasons.
2006-11-20 16:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you a question, who has the most experience in your life as far as marriage is concerned? Who do you know for a fact has your best interests at heart?
Don't be stupid listen to your family. If it is true love that will last the test of time through the ages then it will still be there in a few years right?
Get married then.
2006-11-20 16:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by redondo69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest mistakes I made in my younger years of marriage were associated with my immaturity in life in general. Yes, it's better to wait. Even in marriage you have to be unselfish about the timing of things. Eighteen year olds are different from one another. The very fact that you're asking us hear means you could stand another year of marriage preparation. Read a book or two on getting ready for marriage to see what I mean. Best wishes no matter what you choose.
2006-11-20 16:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have to question yourself about it than you probably are not ready to get married. Move in together first and see how that goes. Many people find they aren't meant for each other after actually living together. What's the rush anyway you're still young! Enjoy it now or you may regret it later!
2006-11-20 16:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Winnie08_98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for at least a year. When you go to college, there are changes that come with that. When you get married, there are changes that come with that. My advice is to put in your first year at college and then think about getting married. One concern is you say your girlfriend is Mormon. By that, I conclude that youare not. Look at that long and hard. She will likely want to get married in the LDS church and that will mean that you would have to join it. Some things are not worth it and joining the Mormon church is just not worth it. Their leader is a false prophet. God has commanded us not to listen to false prophets.
2006-11-24 00:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was in that same situation and it seemed like the best thing for me but it turned out that my family was right. At that age, especially just coming out of HS, you still have lots of things to experience. and sometime down the line, you might feel tied down by marriage. im now 25 with a child and going through a divorce. thank God even after all that i was able to finish school
2006-11-20 16:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Gracie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment for you and your girlfriend to visit with her Bishop. This will help both of you get another perspective in addition to that of your parents. Bishops work with youth all the time and can provide you with a number of things to consider. Then, discuss everything with your girlfriend and make a wise decision - one that is in the best interest for both of you.
2006-11-20 16:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r too young.....dont want to b preachy..but marriage is a very difficult relationship, enjoy ur courtship period, u can get married a few yrs later tooo...no harm waiting ya?if u r intense then ur relation must b strong, so trust each other and postpone d wedding bells
2006-11-20 16:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by danny's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to question the idea of marriage.....your not ready!! When I was married, I didnt have a doubt about it. I knew I was ready. Give yourself some time. Whats your hurry? Your young and if its right...it will be there the day you have no doubts.
2006-11-20 16:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by somebodys_watchn_you 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why couldn't you move in together and go to college without getting married?
Is that a sin or something?
2006-11-20 16:36:49 · answer #11 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋