will their relationship get any better? what is the best way to make it better after making love or having premarital sex?
i wanna know about this issue... thanks :)
2006-11-20 16:25:00 · 5 answers · asked by mini 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't recommend pre-marital sex.
Many years ago I did it, wound up getting the girl pregnant and marrying her. We stayed married for 15 years, but we never had the kind of relationship that lasts. She blamed me for messing up her life and tried to punish me by cheating.
We made the leap from liking each other to having sex without going through the necessary step of falling in love. (I thought we had fallen in love, but I never knew then what that meant.)
I have known situations where the couple lived happily ever after, but that was because both partners learned to grow into the relationship and take it beyond sex.
Love--the kind that results in lifetime marriages--lasts when you get old and ugly, when you've endured a few major illnesses and when you've learned what the girl looks like without her makeup and she's learned what you look like when you haven't had a shower and need a shave.
Love outlasts sex. When you get older you lose a lot of your sex drive (but I'm 65 and my no means have lost all of it) and something has to be there to take its place.
When you are passionate and can't wait to get your clothes off and get into the sack with her you don't think about the long-term aspects of a relationship. Think about them before that happens.
Would you want to live with her through one bad mood or one migraine or one pregnancy? If the answer is "I don't know" keep your fly zipped and your knees together.
2006-11-20 16:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will end the relationship. Not right away. Remember this:
For guys sex is just sex. They want it. When it is over it was sex. Good, bad or just ok. It was sex that is all that is important.
Women/Young women.... Sex is not just sex. It has far more meaning. If the guy you are referring to is your physical age. He is several years behind you in maturity ( I know, but it is true).
For him it is just sex. When you say or think "And I gave him everything!!" For him it is just sex, for you it is something special. It is NOT something special to him.
He may care about you a great deal. That does not translate to the same emotional level as you concerning intimacy. If you both were 20 years older, it would still be the same.
If all you have is sex, you have no relationship. You are convenient for him. Stop being convenient and he is gone.
Want a real relationship.... wait till you are married..., Yea, I know stupid idea.
Let see, it is just sex for him.
Your child will be YOURS. For him it was a bad night of sex, as you got pregnant.
Wait, Wait, Wait..... Get to college, get an education, get married if you like. Have a family with a guy that is prepared for responsibility.
A teenage guy can be very nice, most are. But ALL are walking around in a spermy haze. Just craving a place to put it. IF not you... then who ever is convenient will do. It is just sex for them. They will deny that all day, do not believe it. It really is just sex.
If you just want sex and nothing more, then get two aspirins...
One for you and one for him.
Before a weak moment, place one aspirin between your knees and don't let it go....
For him put it in his shoe.... it will make him limp.... OK, sorry bad joke....
Please Wait.... You will never regret having patience.
A baby is a 20 year commitment. He will be gone.
A disease is a life commitment and will affect all you ever are in contact with.... Please wait....
2006-11-20 16:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by skating265 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people involved. If they did it for love, it may just make their relationship stronger. It will, however, take all the fun out of the wedding night. If they do it for sex, then there is a chance that they will not stay together much longer after that.
The choice is up to each individual.
2006-11-20 16:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by seatony 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible thing it is to attempt to CONVERT anyone to another faith. There are, I am sure just as many faithful believers in Hindu or Buddhist or Moslem as there are in Christianity. For example I would be the absolute WORST Roman Catholic ever. I could not live with the dogma of that church, nor could I believe in their archaic supernatural practice of exorcism and especially the teaching of their panzerpope who writes in his "dominus iesus" that NO Christian churches can be even called churches except HIS and that all others than his are DEFECTIVE ! Neither could my bride to be ever have been spiritually satisfied in my Presbyterian church. She would miss the catholic candles, the making of saints and the restrictions her church makes against modern medicine such as in vitrio fertilization, stem cell research and genetic engineering. So we quickly decided to make RELIGION a non-issue in our marriage. As a result, after 61 years of love and harmony and a large prosperous family we look sadly on other couples who have constant turmoil trying to balance two disparate ideologies. My wife and I have hour long discussions about world poverty, the need for better education in prisons, the importance of good health rules and of course the way we want our country to be run but we just do NOT discuss religion. We are far to busy thinking up ways to improve our marriage and making life for each other happier and more productive.
2016-05-22 04:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on person 2 person. pre-marital sex is supposed 2 help the relationship, like... taking it 2 another level of trust, honesty, etc.
i say that if a couple loves each other enough, who cares about whether it is pre-marital sex or not?
2006-11-20 16:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by gumm13b34r 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋